AS Married couple

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What would that be like is two Aspies got married.
What I was wondering would the children have it as well would have AS.

Not all married people have kids.
If they did though, then their kdis might have AS.

As far as I am aware AS is not strictly a hereditary condition, but I hear enough stories of AS couples having AS children to make me feel that it is at least a distinct possibility that it would get passed on.

Apparently as legend has it my Dad who is dead now had AS so did my Grandad apparently

My son has AS, and it is also on his mum's side of the family. My mum shows some sighns of it, as did my grandad as far as I can remember. I do wonder if a relationship would be a ny easier with a partener who has AS, at least each would have some understanding of each others difficulties

Only if both are diagnosed.. if one doesn't know or doesn't want to believe it things can get rough.

As for heredity.. yes both parents having AS gives about an 80% chance of their child also having it.

Its more like 0.04% for the general population so Id say its mostly hereditary.

Well I just figured out/realized that I have AS and it turns out that my wife does as well. Married 22 years with two kids. To be honest it's been a heck of a ride. And it looks like our oldest daughter may have it as well.

I suppose we're lucky in that we're all relatively high functioning so getting through a normal day doing all the "normal" stuff that "normal" people do isn't a huge issue. Our problem has been more in the way our lives have turned out long-term. Lots of potential (high IQ's) with no accomplishments to show for it. Basically scraping by financially when by rights we should be upper-middle class. Not much in the way of friends and I'm not very close to any of my family (the wife's better that way).

At this point I just worry a lot about paying for college for the daughter and having to eat cat food for retirement.

But I still think we're lucky we found each other because I doubt if NT's would have been able to put up with either of us for long.

I believe I'm Aspie (I identify more than not) and my husband autistic. Our son is autistic. For us, though we did a backwards family tree because we hadn't heard of Asperger's before. I knew we both shared "autistic traits" but the difference in thinking is what really convinced me.

I think it's very possible that I have AS, and that my husband has ADD. We have 3 kids, 2 of which have some form of autism. My youngest has severe autism, and no one is sure if my middle son has AS, or HFA.
I think that genetics play such a huge role in ASD that if two people that have some form of autism had children it's extremely likely that the children would have autism, too.

I think what makes it messy for families is that there is a lot of history of abuse and PTSD or other "consequences" of that abuse/dysfunction clouds the autistic traits.

My husband came from very dysfunctional family-to the point that he had to leave as a teen. Most of the problems all seem to stem from two particular "events" that caused mass trauma. An epidemic of PTSD and hysteria. But in dissecting his developmental delays, he realized a lot of social and learning difficulties predated the abuse and perhaps the same in at least one ancestor.

Although we are "two peas in a pod" regardless, I think knowing more about autistic traits and how "weird" we are, has worked for us and our stability.