I witnessed teenagers bullying

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I saw two female teenagers bullying another female teenager in a side street near my apartment while walking home.

They were calling her a b***h and one of them grabbed hold of her and began to hit her. They didn't see me. I didn't say anything because I was worried it might make the situation worse or that they might attack me. I carried on and waited in the parking lot in front of my apartment and saw them half a minute later walking past. First one sole female, then another two behind her. All had hoods on and it was raining so I couldn't tell what was happening at that point. Then they had gone past and I went home.

Honestly, what should I do in a situation like that?

If it looked a serious assault, you should call the police.

Don't get involved physically. If it's teenage girls it's going to be you who gets arrested.

Other than that, nothing much you could do. Don't feel guilty.

I would never physically get involved. I was considering saying something to try to get them to stop.

Especially if there was a weapon involved, I would have called the police.

I also would have called the police.

If it was me I probably would have tried to intimidate the teens hitting her to get them away, and then talk to her or him(if in the senerio it was a guy) and talk to them about what happened. I mean maybe it is just movies but I have gotten the impression that if an adult actually confronts teens doing this kind of thing...they get scared and run off. Like I could tell them I'm a cop and have them running off and then talk to the person they were harrassing.

I overreact do to anxiety. From past experience, I most likely would’ve become loud and abrasive telling the girls off but I don’t think about consequences at that moment. For instance, that they could have a weapon. I think you reacted reasonable. Calling the police is always an option. Did you feel afraid? Did you have a physical reaction to what you saw?

Yeah I was afraid. I had a guitar with me I was carrying worth a few hundred too and I was tired from carrying it. They could have had a weapon, more youngsters carry them than used to. I would have felt more confident if I had been with someone.

Alright, well I don't generally have a valuable instrument with me, so anything of mine they broke wouldn't really affect me. I think I could probably sneak up and scare the living s**t out of them, so they leave whatever teen they are picking on alone. My main concern would be I would not want to horrify the picked on teen as much, but might be necessary at least till the bullies run away.

See I am not so much about getting them in trouble with the law but if I saw a group picking on just one person it may be hard for me not to intervene.

I admire you for that. I want to do the same.

I would've filmed it and put it on YouTube. But seriously if she wasn't calling for help and wasn't being chased afeter, who knows what it was. Maybe just siblings fighting.

I just dislike that kind of B.S, so it would be hard for me to hold back, that sometimes worries me because some terribly bad person could shoot me in a situation like that, but it would still be hard for me to not help someone I saw as needing help. Like it could be my demise but when I see people suffering or afraid its like an instinctual thing of wanting to help them. I remember the worst incident in my school where a girl I knew was shot and killed. But during the lockdown I held hands with a couple other girls who where really freaked out, like when they grabbed my hand I could feel the sweat from their hands but I could also feel the fear they where facing...and they held my hand in fear so even though that is not what I needed, As I tend to go more numb in these situations, I knew it was what they needed so I held their hands Worst part of my life holding the hands of terrified middle schooler assuring them that it would be ok. I mean s**t some of them gripped my hand so hard, but at that point I couldn't be bothered by it. I feel I maybe should have taken it more serious at the time...but it felt like everyone was against me, even after she died and I had interacted with her in a way that made it seem we could be friends and then she got murdered...I was an outcast her death didn't change that so instead of just being left out I was grieving over this girl I could have made friends with and no one else saw it. Its like they just figured I didn't care, well I cared a lot and I was left out of the circle so to speak, sure I was their classmate, but not worth talking to over the dead girl that could have been my friend if we had ever gotten the chance to hang out...but then some piece of s**t came and murdered her.

Sorry to go all drama queen, but yeah that is what happened...the one girl I was making friends with got murdered by some sick as*hole...and everyone treated me like it wasn't even something I should care about. Maybe I was hurt more than all of them...it doesn't matter...I just wish they could understand that it upset me and made me just as distraught as everyone else. On that particular incident I was not the outsider they treated me like.

I can see why you're upset. It is like you were reading a book and it suddenly ended and got yanked away from you, except it is more, a human life, and you don't know what could have been. That is really sad. The other people who didnt see how hurt you are, are shallow, they only see her for what she was to them.

There's not much you can do. I would say call the police, but in my experience even they can't be trusted to handle things the right way. Myself, if it was a good day, I would have asked them directly what's going on.

In that case you definitely made the right choice. Anxiety is really unpredictable one really doesn't know what one's going to do until something happens.

Reporting it to police in real time (as it happens, or even later) allows the police to create an anonymous "field report" which will trigger days or weeks of increased police attention in the area. Increased attention might discourage more such attacks. That alone makes it worthwhile to report.