Anyone Ever Get Tired of Chit Chat?

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Sometimes you just don't want to make idle conversation with people whom don't care much about you and vice versa.

I don't like the meaningless chit chat. I get tired of being asked the same questions by the same people every time I see them. I get tired of being asked about school over and over again even though I graduated from college last fall. How many times do I have to tell a person that I graduated already? Why is that so hard to remember?

Right. It's the same sh!t every time. I don't make conversation with people as a rule unless I have to or they appear to share an interest like peeps at the gym.

Yes. The worst are things like the hairdressers, or uber rides. I also have this weird thing where I find it kind of embarrassing telling people personal things about myself, like what I do etc. The conversations are always either really awkward or really boring.

And if you don't give these NT's the answers they expect, it becomes awkward as hell.

I don't really like chit chat most of the time. Especially if I've escaped somewhere for some peace and quiet and feel like I'm getting the third degree off someone. When I'm ready I will have a bit of a chat with someone but it's often short lived. I either have nothing to say and it's kinda awkward or I overshare. It's hard knowing how much or how little to say and who to etc. But I'm learning!

Yep, which is what has caused me to make a stand tonight.

The issues we in the UK are facing are life and death situations and if you try to raise them here it is glossed over in favour of bs chit chat type subjects.

We are unable to collectivise as it seems to be frowned upon to speak about what is occurring to us therefore curtailing any solidarity or much needed support and advice we can collectively provide.

LostGirl - The latter part instantly brings you to mind, we're going through exactly the same thing at the same time and i feel incensed that our (i don't mean me and you i mean the 10s of 1000s) collective experiences are not being heard or understood.

There are many people over time who will have come here for help, not received any, left and committed suicide, they dont get the chance to come back and share what happened.

Once again i shall repeat. Leading cause of death in those with Aspergers - Suicide.

If this is the leading ASD site it is highly likely MOST of them will have tried to find help here. Think about that.

I am incensed too. I haven't given up yet though. I think there is a place for chit chat on here though because if you don't want to partake you just click off the page. Also, at times it can help ease loneliness, take your mind off things and I know it has definitely helped me at times I've felt anxious. It's different to having it thrust on you face to face where you can't escape

Yep definitely.

I always get the impression people don't want the actual answers. So what's the point in any of it? I'm always really relieved when the other person doesn't want to talk and it's just silence. Then.....phew. I can just sit and think instead.

Yes! It's really hard to know how much information people want/expect. I tend to go for as little as possible. I answer the question really briefly, often because I feel awkward, then I ask the same question back to them. A lot of people do like to talk about themselves, then I can just kind of sit and nod for a while...

I used to work for someone that liked talking about himself all the time.

I tuned him out after awhile. He didn't have any interest in a reciprocal conversation.

Sometimes, it can be irritating. Sometimes, it has its uses, though.

It's a way to offset the "awkward silence."

It really depends on what you consider chit chat. I wouldn't want to have an incredibly deep and emotional conversation with someone I barely know, since it usually takes me a while before I feel comfortable talking to people about such topics.

However, on the other hand chit chat can be incredibly dull (especially if I'd rather talk about something else in particular) but it can be a good way to talk to people you haven't really connected with yet.

My family don't seem to understand small talk, especially my Grandma- her version of small talk is "Nice weather we're having today, I know someone dying of a deadly disease". I just...how am I meant to respond to that? She talks about death as casually as she talks about gardening.

The chit chat I'm referring to is with people you know as acquaintances for a long time. They don't care about you enough to take it to the next level. So why bother with the bullsh!t of meaningless chatting? I'm ok with silence.

I wish there wasn't so much chit chat in the school cafeteria. It really gets on my nerves. All those damn chatty aspies.

For the most part, I'm not into chit chat.
But I am starting to get better at it, sometimes, and starting to see some value in it. But it's really difficult to do.