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29 Dec 2017, 9:50 pm

Does anyone else tend to reveal stuff that is better being kept to themselves ie they are not always very good when it comes to social boundaries?



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29 Dec 2017, 9:54 pm

me. :oops: :pale:



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29 Dec 2017, 10:03 pm

*raises hand meekly*



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29 Dec 2017, 10:03 pm

Firemonkey, honestly, I think Aspies are the TMI Tribe.

I call it "Hermit Syndrome". We spend a lot of time alone, we're even alone when we're with other people a lot of the time - odd man out even in our own families (see ladyelaine's post about attention hogs and being invisible!).

So it can be rare that we "connect" or click with anyone, and when we do, one of two things happen -

HEAD FOR THE HILLS! (we run for cover) or:

THE DAM'S A-BUSTIN! (we spill our guts).

At least, that's how it goes with me. I'm better at catching myself now, but yeah, I think this is partly due to how we are wired (lots of details), and partly due to what we've experienced (a lot of isolation and loneliness)

Edit in: the thing is, other people do share this kind of info. They just do it in different places, with different people, with more "tests" that people have to pass before they'll share.

Edit in again: I have kind of a rule for myself about this site. Anyone can say anything here and as long as they're not being mean or hateful I'm going to accept it as just a human thing from another human being. Because this is supposed to be a safe place for us and that means it HAS TO BE a place where we can be ourselves. Doesn't mean I will agree with everyone, but I try damn hard to accept.


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29 Dec 2017, 10:13 pm

Yep....I tend to lack a “filter” as well.



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29 Dec 2017, 10:18 pm

I think my filter is clogged.



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29 Dec 2017, 10:39 pm

I think my worst TMI moment was deciding this was an appropriate thing to show my entire family... During Thanksgiving dinner, 2 years ago... (Hey, I thought it was funny!)

Count von Count seems to enjoy oversharing as well:



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29 Dec 2017, 10:43 pm

^^^did you show 'em the UN-censored version? :o



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29 Dec 2017, 10:48 pm

^ Wouldn't that be the kiddie version? (Not sure I want to know otherwise! 8O )



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29 Dec 2017, 10:51 pm

Yeah. Pretty often. Sometimes I think of it as "foot in mouth syndrome".



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29 Dec 2017, 10:58 pm

For years when people would ask me where I was from I'd say, "Well, I was born in Seattle, but I was conceived in California." (The latter part is actually not true, I just thought California made it sound cooler...)



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29 Dec 2017, 11:08 pm

Esmerelda Weatherwax wrote:
Firemonkey, honestly, I think Aspies are the TMI Tribe.

I call it "Hermit Syndrome". We spend a lot of time alone, we're even alone when we're with other people a lot of the time - odd man out even in our own families (see ladyelaine's post about attention hogs and being invisible!).

So it can be rare that we "connect" or click with anyone, and when we do, one of two things happen -

HEAD FOR THE HILLS! (we run for cover) or:

THE DAM'S A-BUSTIN! (we spill our guts).

At least, that's how it goes with me. I'm better at catching myself now, but yeah, I think this is partly due to how we are wired (lots of details), and partly due to what we've experienced (a lot of isolation and loneliness)

Edit in: the thing is, other people do share this kind of info. They just do it in different places, with different people, with more "tests" that people have to pass before they'll share.

Edit in again: I have kind of a rule for myself about this site. Anyone can say anything here and as long as they're not being mean or hateful I'm going to accept it as just a human thing from another human being. Because this is supposed to be a safe place for us and that means it HAS TO BE a place where we can be ourselves. Doesn't mean I will agree with everyone, but I try damn hard to accept.


Sometimes I say more than I should to people. If I'm interacting with people for too long, I will probably say something awkward. I often do feel alone even when around other people. I am a detail oriented person.



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29 Dec 2017, 11:09 pm

Redxk wrote:
For years when people would ask me where I was from I'd say, "Well, I was born in Seattle, but I was conceived in California." (The latter part is actually not true, I just thought California made it sound cooler...)


I have a similar answer, although maybe more convoluted.
I'm from Illinois, but I was conceived in West Germany, and born in indiana, and bounced around the southeast of the US for the first couple of years. But I've been in California for about a decade now...
All of which is true. I'm getting better at the shortest possible version of that answer, though.



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29 Dec 2017, 11:36 pm

when people exchange the social pleasantry with me, of "how ya doin"? I invariably reply, "oh, i'm surviving."



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29 Dec 2017, 11:45 pm

auntblabby wrote:
when people exchange the social pleasantry with me, of "how ya doin"? I invariably reply, "oh, i'm surviving."


My mom likes to respond with "I'm doing".



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29 Dec 2017, 11:46 pm

ladyelaine wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
when people exchange the social pleasantry with me, of "how ya doin"? I invariably reply, "oh, i'm surviving."


My mom likes to respond with "I'm doing".

I like that :wtg: I will have to emulate that now. :alien: