patronized at school

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how many of you AS kids out there go to special schools/ special ed classes?
i go to a special school and im treated like a spazz.
i feel like im a baby at school and the teachers patronize me.
do any of u have/had this problem?

There were times I believed that but I now know I was mistaken.
Just don't worry about it especially from people who don't really know you yet.

It was the other way round with me; they expected me to act a lot older than I felt. I wasn't in special ed though, I went to some grammar school in Manchester.

I was in some Special Ed classes and I've felt that I was patronised.

me too, i felt that they didnt understand about aspergers and liked to assume about what teh disabled can or cannot do, it seemed if you cannot walk, you were placed in slow classes, if i had a problem with learning normally (many aspies sometimes do but i wanted to learn as much as i could) id see the point for special ed, bu just beucase a person is a little professor on something and can pick up on things easily i feel that they should be pallced in regular ed but with adaptations (504 plan) to allow for laptop or computer to be uesd in class.

its a shame, a kid has a love for something and all academics are slowed down or delayed and only reviews for the child even through high school when high schooler should be learning beginning of geometry and calculus or the college prep stuff, tehy are still stuck doing devision and basic algebra.


this can damage the child later in life if the kid decides to go to college and tehy see the evaluation. even though a college sees only grades but i think if a college seen my grades they would think why wasnt this genious placed her along time ago then they evaluate and find out ohh, special ed, might as well find teh slowest college course to teach this person stuff tehy should have learned for free in high school. the lies on the student's iep also can make a child ook bad when come time for the iep meeting.

i have a feeling that yea i was patronized and just pushed through the system, labelled, catergorized and processed (just like an assembly or packaging line)

so what, i know about door parts and can fix them, that dont mean that i put hem before classwork, i know how to use time and always have put schoolwork before door parts, but just beucase i know about door parts that dont mean that im slow or dont know how to do regular academics

when i asked for a challenge (when i was catching them in their act) i was told well thats too hard for you, your not ready for that yet.....
problem was that they were giving the intention that im getting there to that oppertunity then pulling me away by saying its too hard when i know im ready but they just dont want me to try and show my abilities

i was pretty much picked on in every class i went to special or not

If you are disabled in one aspect of your life, they think you're completely disabled; likewise, if you get good grades and that stuff, they think you're smart enough to understand everything (including invisible social rules). People don't bother understanding diversity.

I've been seen as both a baby and a genius, which I'm not. Recently, a lady who knows me saw me converting decimal numbers into binary (it's my only savant superpower) and said "If you can do that, why aren't you getting good grades in math?". The same lady once said "Computers are all about math, so you should be good at math if you know so much about computers". No matter how many times I've explained it to her, she doesn't understand that university math is not about arithmetics.

Some time ago, I went to buy chocolate. Since I have that weird aspie way of speaking, and I get anxious and start stuttering around people I don't know, she thought I was mentally ret*d. So when I was about to pay the chocolate, she took some money and said "Look, it's 150 pesos, one of these coins ($100), and one of those ($50), do you understand? You can also pay with three of those ($50), it's the same. You're a big boy, I'm sure you can count to three, can you?" That felt really, really offensive, but I didn't say anything. However, to show her that I'm not so dumb, I paid her using one $100 coin and five $10 coins.

I used to get that with my special interests. My mom and grandma kept telling me I had to spend more time studying, and use my computer for 1 hour a day, at most. But I had no need to study because I already knew everything I was taught at school, and my father understood that, so he didn't force me.

Forbidding your special interests without a good reason is the worse they can do for your future career.

my mom also used to think i put door parts before school work, beucase when id do my homework id always be holding one of my closers and one day i figured out how to improve penmanship using the one in my avator and my mom came by and said put that closer down and to your homework!! i said well im almost done with the homework and im not playing with it im using it as a tool for my handwriting. i then showed her after i was done and she never scalded me about the closers during(more like doing or helping with) homework since.

taking away an interest can also really hurt an aspie person of any age

giving a reason for an interest to stop i have heard, once or a few times the nurse of my high school tried to make me belive i can contract hepetitis b and c from a closer, well guess what, shes wrong!! i have had door closers with arms since 11th grade(may 2001) and heck im not sick!!

what also can cuase the patronizing is that teaches assume that the sloppy writing produced by aspies is a result of not understanding the material being taught, well i guess some its that case but i believe its from hand coordination and muscle tone, the teachers left me alone when i brought in my little friend in late 12th grade that i had used since 11th grade. (the closer)

I don't get treated like a baby.

Academically, more was always expected of me because I was able to read at an advanced level. I never felt patronized or had my intelligence diminished in that area.

I was in a special ed class and got treated like a criminal or something.

I was patronised by the other kids in my school. But the more I think about it the more I realise I was actually patronised by a couple of my teachers. Mainly the other kids though.