Do you get uncomfortable around people?

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i do.
its a well know autism trait.
do u try to hide the uncomfortable feeling?

Almost always, and them around me

Yes, the more people the worse it gets. Even happens with people I know.

Sometimes I do. It really depends on the people. Sometimes I hide my Autistic traits and sometimes I let them show. It depends on the vibe I feel from the people. If they feel like I can trust them I let my traits show. If it feels like I can't trust them, I do not.

I'm withdrawn and aloof. It's not something I could hide even if I wanted too. People have to make do with the fact that I don't/won't acknowledge them unless I absolutely have to.

Is this not like a given?

Yes I do, can I hide it, not not really. My wife has often used to "just be yourself" when I had to face social encounters. The obvious difficulty is of course being myself is being autistic...QED

Just be yourself sounds so trite. Totally useless advice.

It makes me so mad when people say this. I think with me my problem is no knowing how to not be myself. People with better social skills than me can hide their feelings better and not take themselves so seriously. Being myself all the time is my main problem with people.

I agree. Just being myself creates more problems.

I am very uncomfortable around people, and I can't hide it. I can't relax if there's even one other person in the same room as me, even if they're completely ignoring me. All my energy goes toward trying not to freak out about it, but I still am clearly not comfortable around people. I have horrible social anxiety.

Yes when Im around people cant hardly breathe or swallow. But some people I am more comfortable around than others.

There are very few people I am comfortable around. Some people's toxic energy is enough to make me uncomfortable. I have to get a feel for a person's vibe or energy before I can determine my level of comfort with them. I tend to say very little around people I'm not comfortable with.

no its not, "discomfort" isn't a trait listed in the DSM 5. HOWEVER it can be experienced due to not understanding social nuances.

yes i do feel discomfort sometimes, mostly when i have no idea whats going on and i dont know what to do. but not all the time, id say i feel more stress and confusion than discomfort, its hard socializing and i cant do it too much. but even sometimes i get lonely.

i also feel discomfort in sexual situations and cant handle them.

I get this way in new situations when it involves people. But then that feeling goes away when I get used to the situation so even if new people show up, I am indifferent to them. Only people I have been uncomfortable with are those that would judge me and get mad at me or accuse me of things I didn't even do like telling me I show off and copying me and I would then feel I would have to walk on eggshells to not upset them. I felt that way about certain kids at my school and I felt that way about my dad's cousin. That time I experienced true social anxiety but only around certain people. I sometimes get uncomfortable with my mother because I worry I might do something Asperger's and she will think I did it on purpose to be an aspie because she has told me several times already I tried to be Asperger;s as a teenager. She told me that back then too but I didn't comprehend it then which was good so that meant I didn't have to get nervous in my own house then because I was oblivious. I just thought then "that doesn't make sense because it is part of me. It's like telling me don't try to have brown hair when in fact I do have it already." I figured then it was her way of saying "don't use it as an excuse." She just has her own way of saying things and I still think that. But whenever she gives me this one look, I always get nervous because I wonder if she thinks I'm stupid or I was being Asperger's and she thinks I should know this but I didn't so therefore I am being Asperger's. I wish I knew the name of that look so I could look it up to read what it means to help me figure out what she is thinking.

How do you hide the uncomfortable feeling if it's inside you? No one is going to notice it unless they think your lack of eye contact indicates it or not talking to them or approaching them. I do not hide that at all. I even do this even if I am comfortable in the situation now. People would have to approach me and talk to me for me to talk to them or invite me to their group.

Also "just be yourself" has lost its meaning. I think it's ambiguous.

I don't know if I get uncomfortable around people, or that it's more that I dislike both it and them.
My interactions with people are not positive. And this gets reinforced every time I have interactions with them.
The one exception would be my current work supervisor - for some completely unknown reason I am not uncomfortable around her, which is just completely unheard of.

She is NT, she does not understand. I think the thread the other day "You experince my autism as mild, I don't" (forgive my paraphrase) was a good one and I intend to steal it. If I was totally be myself she would not speak to me for a week! Lets be honest I would want to talk about what I want to talk about, I would interupt, talk over everyone and bore the room to death...oh and then leave again as fast as possible (well under an hour) If I really, really wanted to be myself I would not go in the first place. But then thats no fun for her is it and a marridge is a partnership. I get by being steriotypically English, over the top polite and say as little as possible.