People who break their promises.......

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Ok - this may seem like a minor point, and it may sound like making a veritable mountain out of a metaphorical molehill, but it really wound me up something rotten and has just been eating away at me all day since..... I arranged to phone somebody on Friday night at 7pm - they agreed thay'd be there to take the call..... I even texted them 3 minutes before making the call, telling them I'd be calling in 3 minutes..... and they still didn't blinking well answer it..... They called me back 2 minutes later and gave me a bunch of balloney ("I had to go to the loo" believe it or not ) To most people, OK, no biggie..... But its just the principal that really ticked me off..... When you're an aspie and put your trust in people like this, and they let you down like this..... It just really disappointed me ..... Anyone else suffer from unreasonable expectations of other people keeping promises down to minute detail, or is it just me?

I've learned not to believe any promises. A "Don't trust no one" attitude works well for me.

Yes, when I was a little kid. Then like Sarcastic, I figured out people couldn't be trusted. Now I've got a better sense of which times you can expect people to keep their word and which times you shouldn't count on it.

One time my mom said she would take me to a haunted house that night then backed out of it and because I didnt know they would be open the next weekend (still doesnt make sense to me) I lost it, but I ended up getting my way. I still sometimes do that sometimes (well not the losing it outside just inside) really sucks.

That's not really anything.. It's 2 minutes.. it's all the same to me within 5 minutes either side.

Did you expect them to sh*t their pants until after the phone rang? At least they called back, if they didn't for like, an hour or not at all then I'd be pissed off.

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Last edited by GalileoAce on 02 Apr 2006, 11:34 pm, edited 1 time in total.

hale bopp - i laughed so much, i made myself choke. i love you, girl - what a star!

anyway, TAFKASH, you old reprobate - i thought you didn't have a social life or speak to anyone? didn't you tell us you never go out? /me can't be arsed hunting through your posts to check, but i'm sure someone will corroborate this. or not., and then everyone can tell me off for being horrible.

seriously, it is a complete pisser when people don't do as they say they're going to. i find it very difficult to cope with (i.e., i don't cope at all).

I think you're being a bit hypersensitive, considering the person called back within 2 minutes. They probably really were using the bathroom, and didn't feel comfortable talking on the phone while sitting on the toilet.

That said, I do know what you mean about how people tend to act. For most people, "I'll call you at 9 tonight" means "There's a 30% chance I'll call you, and if I do it'll be some time between 10 tonight and 4 the next day." That annoys the heck out of me, but I've learned to deal with it because it's so ridiculously common.

In fact, NT friends have told me that it's considered a *bad* thing to call somebody when you say you will, because that signifies that you're overly desperate/eager. I guess to them it's better to be a liar than to look like you're overly enthusiastic.

I tend now to trust people that promises to go do something with me at a certain time. That way I don't get angry and too dissapointed.

OK..... you found me out..... it was actually the speaking clock I was calling...... but the principal still holds as far as I'm concerned!

The speaking clock went to the toilet? (At the turd splash ~ it will be .......)





A the risk of being pedantic this is a double negative and implies you trust everyone.

i noticed that, too, aspraval - i was being uncharacteristically restrained.

and why is everybody convinced it was an excretory visit involving defecation? there are OTHER reasons to visit the loo, you know (PLEASE do not use that ghastly word "toilet"!).

If memory serves, they reckoned that they were flushing slugs and snails down it (no puppy dogs were reportedly in the vicinity, so the spell didn't work 100%, sad to say ), which just angers me ever the more in retrospect...... Poor little sluggy-wuggies

It's difficult to decide whether or not to believe promises. I try not to make promises because I hate when I have to break them. Generally people make promises with the intentions of keeping them, but something comes up. People can't see what will happen in the future, so it's best not to keep promises.

That's too bad that it happened to you TAFKASH.

The NT's amongst us seem to feel that when they say "I'll be there at 12pm" they mean more like, "I'll be there some time after 12pm, but not before 1pm, and if it's past 1pm, I won't be there at all since I probably found something more important to do like stay in bed late becasue I pulled an all nighter last night partying and now I have one hell of a hangover".

Of course when I'm faced with this situation, once 12pm passes, and 12:05 comes around, I start to feel the anxiety begin to build. After all, in my mind... 12pm means 12pm, and if I was going to see someone at 12pm, I would move heaven and earth if I had to in order to be there at 12pm. So why shouldn't the same apply in the reverse?

And then if the other person has a cell phone, I would probably call and be like "Where are you?" and they'd be like "God don't worry, I'll on my way and I'll be there when I get there..."

I don't get it either BTW