Are your parents different to each other?

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I can't help noticing how different my parents are to each other, it makes me sensitive and stressed all the time. My mother is kind and bright person but it feels like she's always gets the wrath of my dad who is much older with different values, and he always seems to be irate and scorns at everything.

Is anyone else's parents really different to each other in ways like this and is it normal? It'd be good to hear other's perspectives.
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My parents were quite different. Initial attraction is mysterious and quirky, and half of marriages are so unsuitable they break. Where divorce is rare, infidelity is generally ignored and spouses become householding partners only. My parents never fought, they just avoided conflict entirely. This would have gotten them barred from adopting in Sweden, and I endorse that restriction. I can't handle the normal conflicts of life.

My mum is NT but has always been shy and timid. She met my dad when she was 18 in a pub, and I think she stuck with him because he was the only man who was into her and didn't mind her shyness.

As with my dad, I don't know if he is introvert or extrovert, to be honest. I think he's just inbetween.

I wouldn't say my parents are completely different to each other. They aren't the same either. But both NT.

They have conflicting and complimenting traits, sharing similarities but also some differences. I would say the main difference between my mum and my dad would be that my mum is more outgoing. Both have a similar sense of humour.

Contrast

My mum enjoys partying, whereas my dad is more of a loner who dislikes parties.

Dad will stop and ask for directions when lost, my mum is headstrong and doesn't like to admit we are lost even when we're stuck in the middle of nowhere.

Their music tastes differ.

My dad enjoys WW2 films and documentaries, as well as boat construction. However, my mum is less impressed.

When it comes to the subject of English, my mum excels but my dad struggles due to his dyslexia.

I guess on that note, that would make my dad ND, and my mum NT.

Similar

Both enjoy home improvement and art.

My parents enjoy cooking, although my mum likes baking a bit more than my dad.

They enjoy each other's sense of humour.

Both are good at science and maths.

Enjoy visiting museums, going on hikes, and visiting the beach.

...I would say it's close to even. They have been married for quite a long time now.

My dad has Aspergers (I got mine from him) and my mom is a NT. My mom is a people person and active in my life while my dad obviously is not and doesn't interact with me other than the occasional joke. I can go on but yeah Aspergers is the difference

Two people who are alike don't make a versatile team, but there are many dysfunctional combinations too. Opposites do seem to attract. I know of at least one saint/demon marriage that no one can explain.

I could have written that. My parents fight like cats and dogs. They often want to get me involved. I haven't lived with them for 25 years and they want me to judge who's right and who's wrong. I talk to them once a week on the phone and it's one of my least favorite things to do. I can tell my NT social mom is really looking forward to this treat, so I keep doing it.

My parents appear to live up to that phrase "opposites attract". My mom is active, outgoing, and a natural leader. My dad is usually quiet, somewhat shy, and easygoing. My mom hates the cold weather in winter while my dad seems to have some kind of immunity to it. For years my mom was a health and exercise nut while my dad would never be into such things if he could help it. My mom once said she's only seen him actually run once or twice and that was only because he needed to. But they love each other, get along well, help each other with things, and never even fight.

Of course, it wouldn't be good if they both had the same negative personality traits.

My parents are incredibly different, which is probably why things didn't really work out between them. My mom is very serious and rigid and always likes to have a plan and stick to it. My dad is very much the opposite. He is hardly ever serious and tends to not plan anything and just do whatever he feels like at the moment. He is far more impulsive than she is.

Yeah, they're fairly different. Some of which include:

My mom is more chatty, despite being introvert.

He likes surfing the net and play video games, she likes reading.

She is warm, caring and easy to talk to, he's detached and hard to talk to. He is more often in bad mood and makes crappy remarks and is often impatient, none of which is common for her.

When playing games he takes it dreadfully serious and over thinks every move, while she just wants to have fun and enjoy the game (same as me).

Similarities....
Both like animals and watching series/movies to their liking (also same as me).

This is relatable for me too