Leave Your Esteem Issues At Your Therapist Couch

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Quit using the workplace as a venue to work out your self esteem issues. I'm not your freaking therapist nor am I there to hold your hand through the work day. If I can get through the day without regular praise, so should you. We are all adults and should act as such.

I know there are ASD posters here that don't like the drama that seems to thrive in workplaces. We are tired of people bringing their sh## from home.

What brought this post on?

General observations from various people and my own experiences. Why do you ask?

You obviously give off a helpful and understanding vibe

Love the resident snarks.....lol

I resemble that remark

I was being serious though

People need to be adults and work as a team on the job. The workplace does not revolve around one person. Everyone's contributions to the workplace matter. Don't throw tantrums when you don't get your way. You can't expect to have decent references to use for getting a new job if you burn bridges and have a spotty job history.

Ferris, you try being someone's esteem booster all day and walking on egg shells. I'm sure you would tire of it. This is the stuff autistics are told not to pull on the job. Wouldn't you like your coworkers to not need constant reassurance of awesome they think they are? I've worked in various teams where these problems did not occur. Anyway if my post rubbed you wrong, it was not my intention.

Step away from the offending drama queen, eventually they will catch on or find someone else to latch onto.

Practice saying things like "I really can't talk now, I have work to do."

If you really are troubled by it, discuss it with your supervisor. Most likely, other people have the same issue with said drama queen.

i wish sometimes that NTs keep their over-self-esteem at home.

She isn't literally asking for anything. It's more insidious than that.

I handle it by keeping a professional distance from both of them who by the way feed off each other.

I posted this because there are people that might benefit from it. Low self esteem is what causes people to need constant adoration. It can be draining to those of us out there who are mentally healthy.

Added to say aside from these two people, everyone else seems on track and doesn't appear needy.

No your post did not rub me up the wrong way , I've had to do exactly that to keep a job , what I meant by my post is if you come across as understanding some people will use you as their crutch all the time because you give off the wrong signals. Shut them down a.s.a.p , don't give them what they need apart from what the job description states. Unfortunately though sometimes you have to put up with loads of s**t just to keep a job , it's a catch-22.

Your post is not very clear to me. Do you mean some of your co-workers estimate their work, their efficiency is not good enough for the job?

Because, then they should simply try and find another job that match better to their capacities? Why don't you tell them?

Most employees more often over-estimate their efficiency compared to other employees. That is my experience and it has also been proved by sociology experiments.

Gotcha Ferris.

Laetia, hard to explain but they tend to need constant adoration. They project a superiority that masks their insecurities or so they think. Just very tedious.

Yup. I just smile a lot use my mask....sh!! You gotta do to keep a job running. Only thing I don't do is talk about my personal stuff or oo and awe over their latest bragfest. I know being a team player is an important part of this job's rubric so I use those skills and silently reassure myself that I don't have to see these two outside the office. I'm not obviously aloof as that isn't a good look....I tend towards congenial when spoken too but not one to initiate many conversations. A few times that I tried that, was not especially successful.