I hate my birthday

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I wish I could like it... I like many of the components... balloons, ice cream, I'm easy to please with silly gifts... but somehow it's always bad.

I feel like my interests are pretty obvious, but my family always buys me gifts that I don't like and have no use for. They always choose a restaurant I dislike because the majority of them like it.

I never know what to plan with my friends... there a few activities I would like to do, but I gave up trying to plan it because people can never commit or they cancel last minute. No one ever plans anything for me or thinks of my birthday before it comes and asks if i'm doing anything.

My friends never send me anything, even though I always remember their birthdays and come up a with a clever gift or make them something special. I would be so happy with just a sincere note, but all I get are a few late night "happy birthday" texts. Clearly I'm at the back of their minds.

However, they seem to remember each OTHER's birthdays, even making social media posts about "so and so's birthday is coming up!! !!". They also post about each other's birthdays, ie "Today is XXX's birthday. Such special person to me! blah blah blah". No one has ever done that about me.

People just put really basic facebook posts or MAYBE a couple of text messages that say "Happy birthday, have an amazing day!". Which is really a dick thing to say in my opinion... because I never have an amazing day. There's so much pressure and expectation to have "an awesome day because I deserve it", but I always have a lousy one and no one makes any effort to actually help me have that awesome day "that I deserve".

To top it off, the last several years my birthday has been REALLY bad, as in serious tragedy happening on or a few days before. This year, even my mom forgot it was my birthday. It was a miserable day. From now on, I think I am canceling my birthday.

I get it. A few years ago my family went fishing on my birthday.

I'm a vegetarian who loves animals including fish, alive.

I've gotten overwhelmed many times on my birthday especially when I was younger and it would ruin the entire thing for me. When I was little people often got me things I didn't in anyway want which would sometimes push me into meltdown after a stressful day, and people thought I was being ungrateful. I was a very tomboyish kid who hated most girl toys.

So I can wrap my head around hating a birthday. Do you write lists people could buy things from? Or try planning your birthday? That last one can be hard, I'm trying to do it this year myself and struggling, but at least you can know it'll be how you want it.

I'm just going to bury my face in this cake until everyone goes away.

I cancelled my birthday not long into adulthood. I don't tell anyone when it is unless I have to, and I live far enough away from family that I can get away with having no event at all. I usually get nothing but a card from my Mum nowadays, and this suits me just fine; I don't like surprises, don't like parties, don't really like anniversaries making days "special" so that I can't use my time in ways that I prefer. Besides which, if I'm going to celebrate anything, I want it to be an actual achievement or special milestone in life, not just the fact that I survived one more year. So I don't hate my birthday, but I am totally indifferent to it now that other people have got used to not making a fuss about it.

I'll make an effort for friends and relatives that want to do something for their birthday, but most of them know well enough not to expect me to hang out at a party for very long, so it's not usually a problem.

As an added bonus, all the skipped birthdays mean that I'm still a teenager.

Mine is this Sunday and am dreading it. It is the overwhelming of it all. You just can’t explain it to anyone.

I liked celebrating with friends but, until about five years ago, I really hated birthdays because I felt my life was slipping away from me. I was getting chronologically older, but was making no strides in actually growing up. That has changed quite a bit, but I'm still nowhere near where I should be.

sour puss much, OP? friend does give you something, you devalue it. friend does not give you something, you devalue them.

I plan my own birthdays. Like, I'll announce this year for my birthday I want to "insert fun activity here." I almost never want any purchased gifts, because when you get old like me, you have too much stuff already.

To help my daughter, who has Aspergers, deal with the gift-giving dilemma, I give her some suggestions of gifts both appropriate for me and for anyone. Flowers, scented candle or fancy soap, gourmet food, etc. This is not so much to serve my desires, as to help her learn to negotiate the gift-giving process with others.

Try not to overdo the symbolic significance of any day of the year, whether it be your birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc. Example: "My boyfriend broke up with me - ON VALENTINE'S DAY!! !! !" WAAAAH

Would it have been better if he waited until the day after?

I don't think I started to appreciate the idea of birthdays until I turned 30, really. I still don't make a big deal out of it at all.
In my mid 20's I decided to start sending a card to my mom on my birthday every year.
When I was younger there was a year that I locked myself in my room and ended up in a screaming match because I didn't want to see anyone for my birthday.

Hate mine and it is today. Just woken up and dreading leaving my room

MrMacPhisto,

You share your age and birthday with tennis player Rafael Nadal.

How are you doing today?

This song sums up how I feel I am sure Damon Albarn is on the Spectrum.

My birthday, along with Halloween, is one of the few holidays that I do celebrate. There is no more autistic holiday than your own birthday. I agree with Anton LeVay who said in the Satanic Bible that on your birthday you should treat yourself as the king or god that you are, buy yourself whatever you like, etc.