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StampySquiddyFan
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08 May 2018, 11:26 am
As you already mentioned, only a doctor can diagnose you, and we can only give you our opinions here, but I will try to give you mine 
. One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart 
. Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.).
Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here !
*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply .
11 May 2018, 5:08 am
StampySquiddyFan wrote:
As you already mentioned, only a doctor can diagnose you, and we can only give you our opinions here, but I will try to give you mine . One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart . Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.).
Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here !
*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply .
. One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart . Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.). Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here
!*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply
.Thanks for your reply! and sorry for my late reply.
Hmm yeah the language in the DSM is very abstract. Every word could mean a lot of things at once! It's the same with books, including the one from Tony Attwood. It's a great book but it gives "case studies", the typical stories of aspies and other autistic people. I haven't read the whole book but I didn't really relate and connect to the book. But I related a lot to some aspie stories, especially from women. Some of them really tried hard to fit in, to look normal and were so afraid they were not gonna succeed at passing for normal, making a life and all. And I didn't mention the difficulties typical to all aspies that are more "insivisible" among women (I'm saying "women" but I'm not even a woman
but I'm gay, I don't know if that counts). And I felt I idealized a bit my childhood but actually looking back, I don't think I had real friends. Because I was so afraid to be seen as different no matter where I was and who I was with. That's different today. I still struggle but at least I'm less afraid now.One thing that shows this fear of being "spotted on" is when I entered kindergarten (something I haven't mentionned). Before that, at around age 2-3, I started learning to read. Obviously I wasn't able to read novels yet but I started learning to read with the names of brand like Coca-cola. I would hear the names said out loud, register them into my brain and associate the sounds with the letters in the word (I don't know how I did that with French, my mother tongue but that was the system haha). Well when I entered kindergarten, I suddenly stopped reading. I just didn't want to read anymore and it's easy to make the links. And later in primary school, and that might be related to something else, I remember I consciously put the wrong answers on the tests so that I wouldn't have exceptional results (but I still got an academic prize at the end of each year...).
Literally 18 years of violence to myself! And when there were moments where I said to myself "okay maybe you're not that normal after all, you should accept yourself" and then I said even to my family "okay I'm not that normal", they basically replied "oh stop looking for ways to make you look special, you just want the attention". I can hardly believe it myself now.
Anyway sorry for this long ramble! To go back to your reply, yeah middle school probably just made things even harder. Of course I continued to look "normal" for my family even in middle school and even if I was bullied pretty badly (mostly mentally I have to say) but that's again another problem! I'll try to find a psychologist specialised in autism but it's not easy to find one in my country. :/ but I'll find one! And yes I've taken online tests and I scored ASD on all of them. I've even taken the same test at different times (like every 6 months or so) and even if the scores slighty could differ, I was always scored ASD (not a high score I think but it crossed the limit).
* Oh no... my poor boyfriend. haha
(I won't tell him that)
StampySquiddyFan
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11 May 2018, 9:56 pm
arth_96 wrote:
StampySquiddyFan wrote:
As you already mentioned, only a doctor can diagnose you, and we can only give you our opinions here, but I will try to give you mine . One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart . Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.).
Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here !
*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply .
. One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart . Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.). Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here
!*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply
.Thanks for your reply! and sorry for my late reply.
Hmm yeah the language in the DSM is very abstract. Every word could mean a lot of things at once! It's the same with books, including the one from Tony Attwood. It's a great book but it gives "case studies", the typical stories of aspies and other autistic people. I haven't read the whole book but I didn't really relate and connect to the book. But I related a lot to some aspie stories, especially from women. Some of them really tried hard to fit in, to look normal and were so afraid they were not gonna succeed at passing for normal, making a life and all. And I didn't mention the difficulties typical to all aspies that are more "insivisible" among women (I'm saying "women" but I'm not even a woman
but I'm gay, I don't know if that counts). And I felt I idealized a bit my childhood but actually looking back, I don't think I had real friends. Because I was so afraid to be seen as different no matter where I was and who I was with. That's different today. I still struggle but at least I'm less afraid now.One thing that shows this fear of being "spotted on" is when I entered kindergarten (something I haven't mentionned). Before that, at around age 2-3, I started learning to read. Obviously I wasn't able to read novels yet but I started learning to read with the names of brand like Coca-cola. I would hear the names said out loud, register them into my brain and associate the sounds with the letters in the word (I don't know how I did that with French, my mother tongue but that was the system haha). Well when I entered kindergarten, I suddenly stopped reading. I just didn't want to read anymore and it's easy to make the links. And later in primary school, and that might be related to something else, I remember I consciously put the wrong answers on the tests so that I wouldn't have exceptional results (but I still got an academic prize at the end of each year...).
Literally 18 years of violence to myself! And when there were moments where I said to myself "okay maybe you're not that normal after all, you should accept yourself" and then I said even to my family "okay I'm not that normal", they basically replied "oh stop looking for ways to make you look special, you just want the attention". I can hardly believe it myself now.
Anyway sorry for this long ramble! To go back to your reply, yeah middle school probably just made things even harder. Of course I continued to look "normal" for my family even in middle school and even if I was bullied pretty badly (mostly mentally I have to say) but that's again another problem! I'll try to find a psychologist specialised in autism but it's not easy to find one in my country. :/ but I'll find one! And yes I've taken online tests and I scored ASD on all of them. I've even taken the same test at different times (like every 6 months or so) and even if the scores slighty could differ, I was always scored ASD (not a high score I think but it crossed the limit).
* Oh no... my poor boyfriend. haha
(I won't tell him that)No problem! Don't feel bad about not replying right away- I have a bit of a tendency to ramble on and on without anything resembling my main point
!I'd recommend not getting too caught up with the case studies and to continue reading real stories from autistic people. I've actually known a lot of males on the spectrum who relate more to the so deemed "female" traits and vice versa. Honestly, I don't think there should be much of a divide between them, because, at the end of the day, traits of a syndrome are traits of a syndrome.
That is interesting yet terrible in a way how you literally tried to lower your score just to not be spotted as different! Not to say that it isn't a typical trait of ASD, but wow! That must have been a load of crud to go through and still continue to go through to a certain extent. Just know that there is no such thing as normal, as everyone on Earth has some traits of some syndrome that would give them the label of abnormal. Just make sure you know that the ability to read would be typical at your age now, so you can try your hardest on those tests
.That's fine! You should see some of my rambles on this forum
. One thing I would do if you were to find a psychologist is to write down all these problems and others that you have ever struggled with, and see how they correlate with symptoms of ASD you may have read about. It's typical for scores to differ at different times on those tests, and I would also possibly mention the fact you scored in the ASD range to a psychologist if you find one (which I hope you can! ). Good idea
! He needn't ever know 
!(joking of course
)
13 May 2018, 11:01 am
StampySquiddyFan wrote:
arth_96 wrote:
StampySquiddyFan wrote:
As you already mentioned, only a doctor can diagnose you, and we can only give you our opinions here, but I will try to give you mine . One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart . Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.).
Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here !
*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply .
. One thing that stood out to me whilst reading your post was the emphasis you put on one trait of autism- "having friends." You don't need to have every single little symptom to have autism. I have friends, and I am a diagnosed autistic. Now, one could argue that "having friends" is a required sub-section in the diagnostic criteria (which I recommend taking a look at if you have not already done so- https://images.pearsonclinical.com/imag ... sorder.pdf ), but as you can see the criteria doesn't say that if you have friends you can't be autistic. It kind of almost skirts around the main point and uses confusing language to make the authors of the DSM sound smart . Deficits in making, maintaining, and understanding relationships (beyond those with caregivers) does not mean that an autistic person can't have friends, but rather that there are some differences in doing so that significantly interfere with their lives and are clearly atypical- (I have friends, but I don't usually see them outside of school, I struggle with maintaining relationships, I prefer solitary activities, etc.). Another thing that stood out to me about your post was your description of the transition from primary to middle school. I am very sorry for your loss, and I think you are correct in saying that the changes you had to deal with would have been hard for anyone. That being said, I doubt that those changes would have explained how the wheels sort of fell off once you reached middle school. With ASD, one thing that is sometimes seen is a "worsening" of certain traits at adolescence. This is because, at this point, the social world becomes ten times more complex. In the diagnostic criteria for ASD, it actually states that "symptoms may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities." So a child who didn't necessarily stand out as "different" before is now more conspicuous as they struggle to keep up with the ever changing social world and their peers. Therefore, this could explain why you seemed "normal" when it came to specific symptoms before and why everything became more prominent/appeared when you reached middle school.
My personal opinion is that it is not terribly far-fetched to say that you have an ASD, but it is impossible to diagnose someone over the internet, so I recommend seeing a psychologist (particularly one that specializes in adults with ASD, if you can find one) that can let you know for sure. I would think that if the symptoms you described are causing significant difficulties in your life when it comes to social/academic/occupational functioning, that it is likely that you would receive a diagnosis, but I am no doctor. Have you taken any online tests? They are not a substitute for a professional diagnosis, but they are useful screening tools that can point you in the right direction. I hope you are able to figure things out and, ASD or not, you are always welcome here
!*Also, sensory issues can get worse with age and stress. Just thought I'd add that here as a response to your last reply
.Thanks for your reply! and sorry for my late reply.
Hmm yeah the language in the DSM is very abstract. Every word could mean a lot of things at once! It's the same with books, including the one from Tony Attwood. It's a great book but it gives "case studies", the typical stories of aspies and other autistic people. I haven't read the whole book but I didn't really relate and connect to the book. But I related a lot to some aspie stories, especially from women. Some of them really tried hard to fit in, to look normal and were so afraid they were not gonna succeed at passing for normal, making a life and all. And I didn't mention the difficulties typical to all aspies that are more "insivisible" among women (I'm saying "women" but I'm not even a woman
but I'm gay, I don't know if that counts). And I felt I idealized a bit my childhood but actually looking back, I don't think I had real friends. Because I was so afraid to be seen as different no matter where I was and who I was with. That's different today. I still struggle but at least I'm less afraid now.One thing that shows this fear of being "spotted on" is when I entered kindergarten (something I haven't mentionned). Before that, at around age 2-3, I started learning to read. Obviously I wasn't able to read novels yet but I started learning to read with the names of brand like Coca-cola. I would hear the names said out loud, register them into my brain and associate the sounds with the letters in the word (I don't know how I did that with French, my mother tongue but that was the system haha). Well when I entered kindergarten, I suddenly stopped reading. I just didn't want to read anymore and it's easy to make the links. And later in primary school, and that might be related to something else, I remember I consciously put the wrong answers on the tests so that I wouldn't have exceptional results (but I still got an academic prize at the end of each year...).
Literally 18 years of violence to myself! And when there were moments where I said to myself "okay maybe you're not that normal after all, you should accept yourself" and then I said even to my family "okay I'm not that normal", they basically replied "oh stop looking for ways to make you look special, you just want the attention". I can hardly believe it myself now.
Anyway sorry for this long ramble! To go back to your reply, yeah middle school probably just made things even harder. Of course I continued to look "normal" for my family even in middle school and even if I was bullied pretty badly (mostly mentally I have to say) but that's again another problem! I'll try to find a psychologist specialised in autism but it's not easy to find one in my country. :/ but I'll find one! And yes I've taken online tests and I scored ASD on all of them. I've even taken the same test at different times (like every 6 months or so) and even if the scores slighty could differ, I was always scored ASD (not a high score I think but it crossed the limit).
* Oh no... my poor boyfriend. haha
(I won't tell him that)No problem! Don't feel bad about not replying right away- I have a bit of a tendency to ramble on and on without anything resembling my main point
!I'd recommend not getting too caught up with the case studies and to continue reading real stories from autistic people. I've actually known a lot of males on the spectrum who relate more to the so deemed "female" traits and vice versa. Honestly, I don't think there should be much of a divide between them, because, at the end of the day, traits of a syndrome are traits of a syndrome.
That is interesting yet terrible in a way how you literally tried to lower your score just to not be spotted as different! Not to say that it isn't a typical trait of ASD, but wow! That must have been a load of crud to go through and still continue to go through to a certain extent. Just know that there is no such thing as normal, as everyone on Earth has some traits of some syndrome that would give them the label of abnormal. Just make sure you know that the ability to read would be typical at your age now, so you can try your hardest on those tests
.That's fine! You should see some of my rambles on this forum
. One thing I would do if you were to find a psychologist is to write down all these problems and others that you have ever struggled with, and see how they correlate with symptoms of ASD you may have read about. It's typical for scores to differ at different times on those tests, and I would also possibly mention the fact you scored in the ASD range to a psychologist if you find one (which I hope you can! ). Good idea
! He needn't ever know !(joking of course
)That's okay I'm the same. haha
I think so anyway! Because you reply faster than me, so maybe I'm not that bad after all. Yeah I don't get this divide! And I think I had found one or two articles saying in like the bottom "some men can be cameleons too". Always about "women".
Alright I get that women are frustrated for not being diagnosed when 75% of people diagnosed autistic are men. But they shouldn't just ignore the undiagnosed men otherwise they'll just do the exact same as what they're fighting against. Like I really hate reading "women are different than men" all over the place when I'm reading articles about autism. That's soooo typical of the essential feminists and I really hate that. Just for the note, I'm a feminist myself but a more universalist one. The only biological difference is in my opinion the sexes. The rest is just socially constructed. Autistic women are not different than men because they are women (I don't know how a vagina could have an influence on how you behave, yes alright there are the hormones but it's not a big deal). They are different because they've been educated to be women, which could explain why I have "female" traits (for example my parents let me play with dolls but also with construction bricks and stuff). Yeah it was very difficult but I felt it was the thing to do in order to have friends and stuff! I guess I was a bit wrong but better realising it now than never!
I don't understand what you mean here: "Just make sure you know that the ability to read would be typical at your age now, so you can try your hardest on those tests" -> Do you mean it's not unusual to read at 2?
Yeah I hope so too that I can find a psychologist! Thanks for the advice, I'll takes notes of the traits so.
He'll find out all by himself. haha
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