Will I Ever Get Into A Relationship

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Hows it going everyone, I just thought I'd ask a question to the community as I feel some of you could help. Will I ever get into relationship with aspergers and a small penis?. First of all I'm 24 years of age and I've only ever had one girlfriend when I was 13 (lol joke right) and I'm still a virgin. I've had to witness everyone around me get into relationships over the years and its made me feel pretty worthless to be honest. I'm missing out/missed out on something perfectly natural for everyone else. I've always dreamed of having a girl but its looking like a fantasy. It looks like I won't be able to experience whats perfectly natural and simple for everyone else. So out of the two problems, either one of two issues is life changing on their own right?.. so imagine having the two of them together! Cruel, I know.. its caused alot of depression and made me suicidal but I know theirs worse off people out their but it doesn't change the fact life has been very cruel on me with both of them being out of my control.

So yeh, I'm overweight but if I was slim I'd be a half decent looking guy.. but whats the point with a small penis and no experience. I have mental issues and having small penis plays a big part and all the complications aspergers brings too. It just makes me an outsider and an oddball. So yeh, I know I'd treat a girl like a princess.. I really would but I'm really unlikable to girls. I get ignored and they don't give the time of day (I haven't wasted my time in years though, due to bad experiences. I've become accustomed to being single.. but its depressing as hell and hurts).

I feel I could possibly attract the right girl with my plans to set up my own online business and my intentions to make a difference. I wouldn't just be doing that to impress a girl by the way, their my own personal goals, but I feel that could make me more attractable in the future. But would it be in vain though, with a small penis and aspergers? Thanks for reading

Hi Anon93,
Your penis has nothing to do with a relationship with a girl. What she is looking for is personality. So forget all about penis size.

I have Aspergers & a small penis. My penis size was never a factor getting in a relationship. I have physical & other mental disabilities on top of my Aspergers that really limit me with life. I didn't get my 1st relationship till I was 20. I didn't get my 2nd girlfriend till I was 28 despite my best efforts to find one. I got in my current relationship shortly after thou. I met all 3 women on online forums. I had NO luck at all on dating sites & no luck but bad trying to get women offline. More than a few gay guys were interested in me thou. I think my personality comes off better online to people after they read a lot of my posts. The only women I had sex with is my current girlfriend thou & she was a virgin too. My penis is an issue with sex but we mostly do foreplay which is mostly good enough for both of us.

People on the spectrum tend to be late bloomers with lots of things including relationships & sex. Try not to let it discourage you.

I think the best thing that you can do is to stop making a big deal out of it. I think I was in a similar position to yourself a couple of years ago and I decided to just focus on myself. Improve my health, get a better job, learn to really like myself and then suddenly just as I was getting on top of all this a girl starting showing interest. Now, ultimately, things didn't work out with her and we decided to we were better off going back to just being friends but since then there have been other potential partners and whilst none of them have felt suitable to me I'm suddenly in a place I never thought I would be. So my advice is to stop focusing on getting a girl, focus on yourself and it'll more than likely come and if it doesn't then you're in a better place and have learnt to like yourself and your own company more.

Secondly, on your perceived flaws, for some people they will be issues, for others they won't be. Women are people too and all have different personalities and likes and wants. You like a different kind of girl to what your friend does or to what I do, and woman aren't different in that regard.

Yeah, (not sure how Bobaspie would know how girls think, but he's right) the small penis might not be as big a deal as you think, not all girls will care.
Self-confidence is important, though, and feelings of self-worth, because they'll show through in your interactions. It can help to recognise your personal strengths, and trust that there are girls out there who will appreciate what you have to offer.

thanks for the advice everyone, I will take your advice on board. self development first, hopefully a girl after and then trial & error.