Aspie and love : is-it possible ?

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Hi!
First of all, please excuse my mystakes even if I adore the English language, I still wade a little in its written expression (and spoken of course!). I'm a French woman and I've just discovered my "funny"neurogical senses of identity.
I have just understood my difficulties in sharing with my boyfriend (or my girlfriend, yeah!) my space, my intimacy, the touch and also my inescapable routines which dominate my life.

I would like to get your opinion and your experiment on the life in couple when we are autistic, on the possibility or not to live serenely love without affecting the personality of the one or the other one.

Thanks.

France (it's my real name)

Sure it’s possible.

There are many married people on this Site.

sure it's possible, and if you have trouble showing it as others do, don't force yourself.
You can show love in your own way.

Love is possible for those on the spectrum or display AS like traits, we're just as capable of feeling and understanding the true aspects and elements of love. Sure some Aspies are more introverted and not so touchy feel due to sensory overload or affectionate but then you'll get many people that are not on the spectrum and don't like to show or receive affection or don't really communicate there inner most thoughts or feelings either.

In answer to your question! sure of cause aspies and love can work. It may benefit people on the spectrum all the more and make there life fulfilling. Everyone deserves to experience love and give and receive love.

It is definitely possible to love and be in a good relationship as an autistic person or an Aspie. But when you are in a relationship, your personalities WILL affect each other. That is true for every relationship, there are things that are good and bad about everyone. The key to a good relationship is being able to sort things out when you have a problem, and being honest with each other about your feelings. I am in a very good marriage, but even then there are times when my partner and I get angry with each other or make each other sad. The thing to remember is that even when this happens, that the other person still loves you even when we don't get things right.

^^^Just curious: is your husband into the Gothic aesthetic, too?

Absolutely autistic people can love. Why couldn't they?

I think autistic people are more likely to be asexual or aromantic on average than neurotypicals, but that doesn't mean that some autistic people (and even the ace and aro ones) can't experience love.

On the alexithymia side of things, it has been hard for me to tell the difference between romantic and platonic feelings, but they are feelings nonetheless.

Yes, love is possible, but every person with autism is different. i have observed here at WrongPlanet that some people with Asperger's cannot handle the rejection or perceived rejection that may occur in the process of dating or courtship, and therefore they never reach the stage of love. I am a fortunate Aspie in that I don't have very much anxiety, so this has not been a big deal to me, but I know it is to some people.

I sure hope it's possible. I am married to an Aspie, and have an autism spectrum disorder myself.

My 2nd & current girlfriend are both on the spectrum. I'm actually an Aspie who's very clingy & needy & loves being supportive within a relationship but my 2nd girlfriend was kind of independent or at least wanted to be(she was more like a stereotypical Aspie) which is one of the reasons our realtionship fell apart. I have more than my fair share of mental & physical issues & I know what would of helped me when I was dealing with things so I use that to try & be supportive of my romantic partners. My current girlfriend has mental & physical issues & likes me cuz I'm supportive & she's also affectionate which I love.