Board index › General Discussion › General Autism Discussion

I hate the word "Antisocial"

Page 1 of 1 [ 13 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

RainbowUnion
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 19 Jan 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 899

03 Jun 2018, 2:53 pm

Because of the NT attached connotations. Namely, that if you are "antisocial" it means they probably think you are a half step removed from being a serial killer, sociopath, weirdo, and probable pedophile all rolled into one, or that you likely are all that and just haven't been caught!


_________________
"It must be understood, that neither by word nor deed had I given Fortunato cause to doubt my good-will. I continued as was my wont, to smile in his face, and he did not perceive that my smile was at the thought of his immolation."

Edgar Allan Poe, The Cask of Amontillado


neilson_wheels
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Mar 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,404
Location: London, Capital of the Un-United Kingdom

03 Jun 2018, 2:56 pm

There seems to be general confusion/conflation between being anti-social and being asocial, even if you tell someone you are asocial they still seem to think you are a psychopath too.



RainbowUnion
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 19 Jan 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 899

03 Jun 2018, 2:58 pm

neilson_wheels wrote:
There seems to be general confusion/conflation between being anti-social and being asocial, even if you tell someone you are asocial they still seem to think you are a psychopath too.


Excellent point sir. Asocial would be a better description of my general disposition.


_________________
"It must be understood, that neither by word nor deed had I given Fortunato cause to doubt my good-will. I continued as was my wont, to smile in his face, and he did not perceive that my smile was at the thought of his immolation."

Edgar Allan Poe, The Cask of Amontillado


ladyelaine
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 26 Apr 2016
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,164
Location: surrounded by cats

03 Jun 2018, 3:35 pm

I have been accused of being antisocial because I don't really have a social life and I'm quiet most of the time. I have struggled with making friends. I'm not the greatest conversationalist unless I really click with a person. Being chatty is not my natural inclination.

People do tend to think that antisocial and asocial are the same thing even though they are not. People are ignorant about these terms.



StampySquiddyFan
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Jul 2017
Age: 21
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,754
Location: Stampy's Lovely World

03 Jun 2018, 3:39 pm

ladyelaine wrote:
People do tend to think that antisocial and asocial are the same thing even though they are not. People are ignorant about these terms.


I wholeheartedly agree. I wish people wouldn't call me antisocial when I am really just a quiet person with a few friends. Antisocial and asocial have completely different definitions, but most people don't seem to know the difference.


_________________
Hi! I'm Stampy (not the actual YouTuber, just a fan!) and I have been diagnosed professionally with ASD and OCD and likely have TS. If you have any questions or just want to talk, please feel free to PM me!

Current Interests: Stampy Cat, AGT, and Medicine


skibum
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 18 Jul 2013
Age: 58
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,429
Location: my own little world

03 Jun 2018, 4:28 pm

That is one of the reasons I like the word. If I don't want to socialize and I don't want to explain why, I just tell people that I am anti social or that I am a sociopath and they leave me alone. Works every time. :D


_________________
"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."

Wreck It Ralph


Last edited by skibum on 03 Jun 2018, 6:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,574
Location: the island of defective toy santas

03 Jun 2018, 5:13 pm

^^^ :star: :idea: :star:



skibum
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 18 Jul 2013
Age: 58
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,429
Location: my own little world

03 Jun 2018, 6:18 pm

:D


_________________
"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."

Wreck It Ralph


naturalplastic
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Aug 2010
Age: 69
Gender: Male
Posts: 35,189
Location: temperate zone

03 Jun 2018, 6:49 pm

The word is ambiguous.

Antisocial actually means "a danger to society", and not just "doesn't go to parties". You hafta be something like a pedophile, or an axe murderer to be "antisocial". Yeah "asocial" would be the term for "doesn't go to parties".

But if you LIKE the term because it drives folks away...then...you could also tell them you have leprosy.



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,574
Location: the island of defective toy santas

03 Jun 2018, 6:54 pm

I just perseverate and it drives them away just fine :alien:



skibum
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 18 Jul 2013
Age: 58
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,429
Location: my own little world

03 Jun 2018, 8:11 pm

naturalplastic wrote:
The word is ambiguous.

Antisocial actually means "a danger to society", and not just "doesn't go to parties". You hafta be something like a pedophile, or an axe murderer to be "antisocial". Yeah "asocial" would be the term for "doesn't go to parties".

But if you LIKE the term because it drives folks away...then...you could also tell them you have leprosy.
I might actually try that one! :D


_________________
"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."

Wreck It Ralph


EzraS
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 24 Sep 2013
Gender: Male
Posts: 27,828
Location: Twin Peaks

05 Jun 2018, 12:01 pm

I like the term, I prefer my own company. Might possibly come of as conceited, but probably not psycho.



goldfish21
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Feb 2013
Age: 42
Gender: Male
Posts: 22,612
Location: Vancouver, BC, Canada

05 Jun 2018, 4:59 pm

RainbowUnion wrote:
Because of the NT attached connotations. Namely, that if you are "antisocial" it means they probably think you are a half step removed from being a serial killer, sociopath, weirdo, and probable pedophile all rolled into one, or that you likely are all that and just haven't been caught!


Yeah.. I completely agree.. except for the fact that the definition of antisocial includes none of those things & none of them are things that anyone assumes about antisocial people. Know what they assume? That you either don't like socializing, or cannot socialize. That's it, that's all. The rest of that nonsense is all in your own anxious assuming mind.


_________________
No :heart: for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.