Some people (NT's) are just thick!! !!

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Yeah ok I know I am not autistic by any means but my son is and right now I am so angry . (I hope this is in the right place)
I know and have learnt (the hard way) that routines are VERY imoportant and they are not to be mixed up/broken. Well my son's bedtime routine was broken and he was so NOT happy! He started spinning and doing finger movements in front of his eyes. I could tell he needed to rebalace himself.
Then he was making noises and talking when he doesn't normally. Well Poppa wasn't too happy because he couldn't hear his TV. SO what!! !! !!
I don't care People should NOT come here when it is Damo's bedtime (or teatime either) without warning!! !! !!
Why can't some people get it thru their thick head that an autistic child doesn't care about your precious TV time, they don't need people visiting without warning right on bedtime, they just want and need things to go according the the schedule

Sounds like you need a big, vicious guard dog!

I know what you mean about people interfering with their routine .... they just don't understand.

I have 2 sons diagnosed with Asperger's (and think my 3rd son is probably Aspie as well).

Helen

Can't have dogs at this house
My Dad could be a bit more empathetic too while he is at it. He knows what happens when routines are broken with out warning.
But he didn't know this kid was coming up either.

I am in agreement with not wanting people just turning up and interfering with routine, being on the spectrum myself I hate it and my sister in law always seems to turn up when I'm cooking dinner for my boys.

I get so frustrated and stressed, and then she thinks I have a problem, but its her!

I have now told her and seems to of worked, but she still phones at all the wrong times - love answer phones

omgosh yea, interrupting a routine is like murder, its the worst thing ever! It happens frequently with me, and ppl get mad if i stim, because i stim hardcore, i just so badly want to say walk a day in my shoes for once. I wish there was like a thing for virtual reality for NTs to be autistic for a couple hours and know what it feels like to have a sensory overload or meltdown or have to stim crazy, i wonder if they would see things differently then, hmmm...

Mum2ASD, next time that happens - switch the TV off and pull out the plug before giving him a verbal serve about your son.

In order to fit in with your son, you yourselves need to establish some sort of routine. Now it's not always going to work out (nothing ever does) but if you can just get things going properly and include some talk time for him to air his grievances - and remember to listen of course (I'm probably preaching to the converted there!).

If Dad won't do it - kick him out. Yes I know that sounds cruel, but if he truly loves the kid as you do, he'd do it.

"I'm sorry, you'll have to come back in half an hour after my son's gone to bed."

My mother interrupts my routine all the time. Comes barging into my house at the most inconvenient times to complain about how untidy I keep it or calls me and tells me to come and help out with something or other. It drives me insane. I need my routine.

Lock the doors. Take the phone off the hook.

I don't own the house. My mother's boyfriend does. He sort of got a sh***y house with purchase of a nice one, so he lets me live in the sh***y one for pretty much free. Which is nice. However, my mother has a key. I do lock the door. She just unlocks it. And sure I could take the phone off the hook, but she'd just come over with the afforementioned key and barge in instead.

I hate it when that happens... the last two times, I went crazy!

Last edited by Capriccio on 18 Feb 2008, 10:28 am, edited 1 time in total.

New locks.

Again with the borrowed house.

The hell with that. You have a right to privacy.

I'd like to think so. But when I say that, she puts a guilt trip on me and calls me ungrateful and such just because I don't want to interrupt my - to her pointless - routines to help out with something she doesn't find pointless.

It is my opinion that you don't need to be concerned about respecting the wishes of people who demonstrate a lack of respect for you. You need to take care of yourself first, before you try to be concerned about what anybody else wants or needs. They may get pissed (angry), but you're not responsible for their feelings, so don't feel guilty about it.