Meeting other Aspies IRL - Experiences?

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In a few weeks, I will probably join a group of other people on the spectrum (there are some planned activities and it will be for a day). On the one hand, I'm quite excited because I've never actually met any other Aspie IRL so far. On the other hand, I'm afraid that I might not feel any more "connected" with them than I'd feel with "normal" people. After all, everyone is unique in his or her way...
So I'm curious about your experiences with meeting other Aspies IRL. Did it feel any "different" being around them? Was it a positive or a negative experience overall? Did you make any new friends?

Being with Aspies have both the warmest and most alienating experiences in my entire life. I love how I can relax around Aspies. How I can say almost anything without backlash, it allows me to have an instant and powerful connection that I simply can't get with NTs. When Aspies zone out, by being distracted by their special interest, or retreating into their own little world, then there is no reaching them. It's an extremely alienating and lonely experience.

I’ve met quite a few in real life through the years. Firstly, I was in a class at school just for people on the Spectrum. Then I have met other since leaving school. I have mainly had good experiences I have only had 1 bad experience but I don’t think that person was on the Spectrum though.

I have known quite a few people who in retrospect, were probably Aspies, but I did not know it at the time.

I would say I generally resonate with them, but at times find their obsessions/special interests tiresome. As you become closer to them, they may irritate you more. I think it would be fine to socialize with a group of them, though.

I've only met about 4 One was a girl who was a family friend. Me & her were friends when we were little kids but lost touch till I was about 20. We hung out a couple times & seemed to get along really well. The 2nd Aspie is my 2nd girlfriend who I met on this forum. The 3rd is my current girlfriend who I also met on this forum. I was already in a relationship with each girlfriend by the time we met offline so that may be some of why we got along so well offline. The 4th is my current girlfriend's brother who's been officially diagnosed since he was little. He deals with his Aspergers & having a hard life cuz of that & other issues by being an inconsiderate as*hole. He has a quick temper & demands others accommodate him. I haven't spent a lot of time with him thou & when I'm around him my girlfriend is so I'm quiet & just let them mostly talk amongst themselves. I've always been like that in family social situations thou with my family.