Regression

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I'm feeling rather frustrated because, on account of a heck ton of major life changes, I've been regressing.

I had gotten to the point I was only having rare meltdowns and could leave the house okay most of the time.

Now, for example, I've had multiple shutdowns and meltdowns within the last week, and have gone nonverbal at least twice.

Anyway to help this?

As much as possible, reduce the stress and chaos. Get someone to help with any responsibilities you may have for a while. If you can't keep to your old routine, establish a new routine that works for you. Give yourself time alone for whatever solitary activities you enjoy.

Sorry, I know that's all pretty vague, but so was your description.

Also--I just saw you're just 17! Lots of stress at that age! At least you know what ASD is. When I was your age I had no clue--I was just a semi-functional weirdo with no support.

I'll go in order by what happened; I'm extremely far behind in school, my mom had a baby, my mom's boyfriend moved in, My sister (Who is schizoaffective) moved back in with a friend and two dogs, I moved out to a family friend's. Soon I will be going to a family reunion, and my mom is thinking about buying a new house.

I'm having trouble with doing even really basic things day to day, I've been having meltdowns, trouble keeping up self care, difficulty with basic conversations, difficulty keeping my anger under control, and am losing my speech easier.

Thanks for the advice, though I don't know if I can use most of it right now.

And I don't know how I would manage at all if I wasn't diagnosed. Before I was diagnosed at ten, I was having daily meltdowns and was in shutdown most of the time, with people getting frustrated with me because I was smart but not interactive. If I was expected to manage as well as most people with no supports I couldn't do it, not by high school level especially if I was forced to go to the normal public schools.

Right now I go to a charter I like, and I was home schooled for seventh and eighth grade. If I wasn't diagnosed I don't think I would of gotten that and sixth grade was unbearable even with a diagnoses (They did break the law many times in dealing with me though)

So yes, I'm very glad to know I'm autistic.

I see you have a lot going on and I do see why. Unable to control the anger is the most important one. If you're angry, that could be the indicator that a meltdown is coming and you need to tell someone that you need a break for awhile.

Idk if everyone with Autism, in general, that is stressed feels angry at first before a meltdown or the meltdown happens randomly. I can feel like a meltdown is coming when I get in an angry mood first and that doesn't happen very often. Although for me working two jobs is already stressful enough so it's gonna happen more often.

Stress is a major trigger for me. I have been walking the fine line of a meltdown for months. There have been several small outburst, but last night it was the full Monte. I had not had one of those for 20+ years. It scared the stuffing out of the kids, and poor Steven just went into his bubble and stimmed while pacing for 45 minutes. The feelings that I recall leading up to it were hopelessness, followed by anger at my inability to work out a solution. I have read several articles on "autistic burnout" and what they describe matches my experiences. Looking back, I have had a few of these burnouts but none of them have been as deep or long as this one. Even my manager has taken notice of the change. I am seriously wondering if I will ever come out of it.

I honestly don't know how I'm supposed to manage this at all. I'm constantly stressed out of my wits and I'm having a ton of meltdowns. I just had a bad one, and the person whose house I'm staying at blocked my exit during it, because I cannot control myself during the bad ones whatsoever I shouted something at her and pushed her out of my way. She doesn't seem to understand at all and seems to think I'm just trying to get out of chores. This may sound strange but I'm so stressed I kind of wonder how I'm even alive. I constantly can't think and I really can't do much in the way of chores at all. I don't understand how I'm supposed to deal with this. By the way I gave her a lot of warning more than once before the Meltdown. She did not heed it whatsoever.

You might simply need to change your routine from top to bottom, a complete overhaul.
Start with waking up at a different time, eat a completly different meal or switch up your meals and even respond differently to feedback. Do something completly off-the-wall, something risky but not illegal. Usually when you are the least stressed, it is because you like your current routine. So obviously if it is not working it needs to change. Objective here(I've been there before)challenge people around you to respond with "Who are you all of a sudden?"

I think the problem is that my current routine keeps getting interrupted in major ways. Right now, I'm getting to meltdown or shutdown really quick which makes me concerned about going out to much, as I hate having them in public. I've also been having more mute spots than normal, which both happens more in public, and is even more frustrating in public.