Some people have no logic and are just rude

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This morning, as I have to do so many times at all hours of the day or night, I had to get out of bed, get dressed, walk all the way down the street and ask the lady who was waiting for my neighbor to turn the bass down on her car stereo because it was pounding into my bedroom. It is always the same couple of neighbors and they piss me off to no end. Her music was not as loud as other people's have been but it was loud enough to travel into my bedroom. I don't care how loud or soft your music actually is, if it is playing in my house, it is too loud.

When I asked her to turn it down because it was pounding into my bedroom, she asked me where I lived. I pointed to my house all the way down the street and she said, "It can't be [pounding into my bedroom] because it's not that loud."

This is the part I don't understand. How can you possibly have that particular response? Do they think I got out of bed, got dressed and walked all the way down the street and confronted them because my house was quiet? If it wasn't pounding into my bedroom, why would I make the effort to get out of bed, get dressed, and walk all the way down there? I would have just kept on sleeping. If I am home sleeping or doing something in my house, I don't want to have to interrupt it to go confront someone about their music. I would like to just do whatever I am doing in my own home. The fact that I have to stop what I am doing and go out and find them and talk to them is a problem. Don't they understand this? What the **** is their problem?

I had neighbours with big sub-woofers in their car. Unfortunately, they also had a LOT of friends with big sub-woofers in their cars as well I'm not the best at keeping my anger in check and frequently stormed outside shouting and screaming about the unbalanced bass coming through my walls! Even when music is turned down, sub-bass frequencies still travel long distances and leak through walls etc.

There's an interesting question/reply in stackexchange about it:
https://physics.stackexchange.com/quest ... -distances

I just read the article from the link you posted. It was really informative. Thank you so much for posting that.

You're dealing with people that lack class and decency.... ....perhaps they belong in a Jeff Foxworthy video on You might be a redneck if people are always asking you to turn down your car music from several houses down.

Some people are just a-holes...and don't care about others.

You've put me in mind of a next-door neighbour I had many years ago. He had one of those hair-trigger car alarms which would go off several times a night if there was the slightest wind. Every time, he would take quarter of an hour to get himself up and go outside to turn it off. Not only was he not bothered by me and other neighbours complaining to him about it; he didn't even seem bothered by being woken up himself at all hours, nor that the alarm "crying wolf" meant that it would be ignored if someone were actually breaking into his car. So yes, both rude and illogical!

It's crazy too because my town has a bunch of sound ordinances. But I have even had police officers and council men tell me that it is their right to do that under the freedom of speech amendment. That makes me furious. And when they say whatever their twisted interpretation of the constitution and freedom of speech is, I respond by saying that freedom of speech cannot trump the right to life. But they don't seem to understand that.

You could also be a gansta because most of the times I heard loud music coming from cars, it's rap with heavy bass. Rednecks are into country instead of rap.

Me & my girlfriend live in a townhouse apartment & have neighbors on both sides & we share a wall with each of them that's really thin & probably has no insulation. I've had to go to one of the neighbors on a few occasions to ask them to turn their music or TV down cuz it was really loud inside our place. The music/TV got turned down a tad but was still loud. We hear their bass alot in our place but I won't go there to ask em to turn it down unless it's really loud. My girlfriend has sound sensitivities & is alot more sensitive to the noise than me. It may not be that loud for an average person but it's loud to her. I really wish they'd move out or quit turning the stereo up so loud or we'll have to move to a place that doesn't have neighbors that are connected to us or are only connected on a small area. I'm sure finding that kind of place that accepts Cass's Section 8 voucher will be extremely difficult.

It is so difficult when you have to live in such close proximity to other people. Nick, I am surprised that you don't have a cinderblock firewall between the houses. I live in a semi detached so even though I have neighbors on both sides, the house that is physically attached to mine has a cinderblock firewall as the shared wall. It is ridiculous that the shared walls are so thin. I can still hear my neighbors through that wall especially when their little guy runs up and down on the wood floors but I am really surprised that building codes would not require fire walls between the homes. My house was built in 1925 though so maybe things have changed since then.

Some people just suck. Hell, most people suck.

Agreed!

I used to have neighbors below me play their music real loud. I tried to talk to them but wouldn't answer their door, I complained to the landlord and nothing happened. My husband once called the police and they never came. I tried to cause a ruckus but provoking him to turn his music louder to get neighbors angry but that got my husband upset instead.

How the other neighbors could stand it was beyond me. Also the fact they once woke me up at 5 in the morning and had their music the loudest and it shook my walls and everything. No one came out shouting. I couldn't get back to sleep and I ended up with an early bedtime. I did complain to my landlord all right.

This problem with self entitled people is completely out of hand. People tell me I should move. I have been living here for well over a decade. These neighbors just moved in recently yet I should move because they are breaking the law. It makes no sense. And now I tell people who tell me to move, "where am I supposed to go that people don't do this?" I don't have the money to buy 50 acres of isolated land in the country somewhere. And I don't understand why we have to spend thousands of dollars to move and buy soundproofing when they can just turn a knob or get a headset.

"Will you pay my deposit and a moving van for me and a moving truck?"

Skibum,

You would love the sound ordinance in my city. It was specifically written for loud sub woofers. They define being to loud as any sound that you can FEEL from more than 30 feet away, or from inside a home. Never mind that you can hear a motorcycle from over a mile away.

I wish my town would enforce an ordinance like that.

Public and University libraries used to be sanctuaries of quietness, where people respected the right of users to be exposed to minimum noise disturbance. Now they are infested with people who go as couples or groups and talk nonstop as if they were meeting in a cafe or at a party. This is not just younger people either, although they are the loudest persistent socialising squawkers in these libraries which were designed for quiet study and research.

What is it that confers this sense of entitlement on people who pollute spaces with their personal noise? Is it just ignorance, or is it arrogant indifference to the conventions of quiet spaces. Or do they go there because it is cheaper than cafes and warmer than sitting outside where their squawking is not disruptive to others?

Are they ignorant of their own rudeness, or unaware of the conventions, or simply don't care about the contaminating effect of their noise pollution?

I think that the loudness of daily life now - polluted by leaf blowers and loud music etc for many at home, and polluted in public spaces in all sorts of ways by all sorts of noise polluters - has impacts on emotional health generally. It certainly has impacts on mine.