Have I Done The Right Thing?

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I basically got rid of one of my closest friends and closest cousin in the space of a few days. The reason I got rid of my friend was because when he came round to mine, he kept having indirect insults at me. I suffer from a very embarrising condition called halitosis.. which basically means permanent bad breath. But enyway, me and my friends were having a smoke (I smoke weed on occasions). First of all he said he had an ulcer and was worried it might cause bad breath which made me suddenly go silent for a few minutes.. but I thought he could of just been saying that about his situation and not mine (but might of been a first hint at mine). So I let that one slide enyway. The second one, he brought some mints to put on the bed and was hinting at how fresh and minty they was (in order to get me to have one probably). The third one was just hand covering when I spoke his direction (I'm not an idiot and know why). The fourth one, I made him a glass of water and he just stared at the glass to hint there was something wrong with the water. The fifth one he started playing around with my fan when I told him not, nearly broke it and took a lot of work to get it working again.

And a few weeks ago I had a drink with the same guy and a different friend. Me and the other friend were having a good convoseration I thought and I generally enjoyed the night. The next day he tells me I was talking a lot of s**t the day before and I found the offensive because I thought we all were having a good chat and a good night. Pretty ironic too because he chats more s**t than anyone I've met. But anyway, after that night.. I told him to not bover phoning me anymore and I blocked him. Pretty ruthless but I couldn't stand him any longer. His lifestyle basically revolved around smoking weed everyday and he only came round to mine to smoke weed. His in his early 30's with no girlfriend, job or kid and seems to think people robbing things/people is cool. I haven't really liked him for awhile to be honest low key and Monday night was pretty much the straw that broke the camels back.


So yeh, the question is.. was it justified? I'm currently out of work at the moment and dealing with my physical/mental health so I admit I am loser just like him atm.. but I have prospects to get a job, car, girlfriend once I've sorted myself.. unlike him.

You were smart to get of a person who just might be a criminal. Smart move.

Especially if you have job prospects.

I know it's not your fault you have bad breath---but the mints were probably a hint. If they help, I would use them. I don't care for bad breath myself. You're not a bad person because you have bad breath---but it's unpleasant, nevertheless. The mint thing was a hint. Nobody wants to directly tell you you have bad breath.

If I had bad breath, and can get rid of it, I'd get rid of it.

Halitosis can be a sign of poor dental hygiene, but also possibly of diseases of the internal organs. I'd advise you to discuss this with both your dentist and doctor.

One reason I fell so rapidly for my current husband was that despite his advanced age, his breath was perfectly fine. I don't relish kissing anyone with smelly breath.

As for the ex-friend ... "I'm a loser like him atm" ... don't judge yourself, or others, this way. If he gets by with petty theft, it's just one more reason to avoid him, though. Someone like that will not only steal from others but from you.

He definetly hinted, I got the message off him. I was offended and thought why go on like that when there's another mate there too? and ruin the experience. I guess I didn't like it. I'm very insecure about it and its caused me massive depression in the past, I've nearly taken my life because of it. Why did I have to get such an embarrassing, rare, curse of an illness? Mints do help briefly, but my breath eventually breaks through after they loose flavour or if there strong enough, shortly after I've finished them.

Last edited by Anonymous93 on 20 Jul 2018, 1:24 am, edited 1 time in total.

I think its probably one of my organs. I went dentist other week and he said it wasn't too do with my teeth. I also had a blood test last month and my kidneys and liver were fine apparently. I was sceptical for along time that one of the two weren't working properly, but I was pleasantly surprised. I was also surprised to learn I hadn't got diabetes, which I was also convinced. One place they haven't checked though, is my stomach. I get heartburn quite a lot and think I've got an ulcer.. so maybe it is my stomach after all. The best way to explain it is, poo or wrot. I'd love to get rid of it though because its ruining my life, as I said to the other gentleman.. its nearly made me commit suicide. I've got to see a doctor soon about my mental health and thats the first thing I'm going to bring up. I feel like I'm on bonus time though as I planned and was close to killing myself Wednesday morning. Not just because of halitosis but I'd be lying if it wasn't one of the main reasons.

And thank you, that makes me feel so much better lol. I'm aware of how horrible it is for other people and I wouldn't try to get into a romantic relationship with anybody with this breath anyway. He doesn't actually steal himself, he just knows people that do. And whenever he used to boast about it, it just made me roll my eyes. I won't be seeing him again though, harsh maybe, how I got rid of him.. but I got rid of him none the less.

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I don't know if this works for bad breath, but my dentist wanted me to try it because of a funny bump in my mouth that gets inflamed and irritated and it keeps that under control. It is very different from other mouthwashes.

None of us need to hang around people who say things that cut us down. Sometimes I think hints are worse than a direct confrontation.

Thank you for your recommendation, I'll look into it. And definetly, I suppose I couldn't handle the truth but he had indirected insults at other things soo. As tough as it was (I been friends with him for 11 years on and off) to end the friendship, it was the right thing to do.

I depends on how you "got rid" of them. If all you did was tell them off and banish them from you life, then everything is cool. If instead you made arrangements for them to "go sleep with the fishes", then you have a problem.