Dealing with children/babies

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I'm ashamed to say that i really can't relate to children. Obviously i have trouble relating to people in general but with children it's worse. Because they're so illogical and i don't find them cute either. I just see them as little adults.
For example my long time friend had recently given birth and she was talking about how she'll bring the baby with her next time we meet and i.. just pretended how cute the baby is and how much i wanted to see her. But i'm worried that she sensed the truth and thinks of me as a cold, heartless person.
Can anyone relate to this? Can this be related to asd?

I've certainly heard a lot of other people on this forum having the same difficulties as you.

For me, it's actually kind of the opposite - I actually find it generally easier to deal with kids than grown-ups. I think it's mainly because kids don't usually want to do things like make small talk - they just want to play games, and playing games is much easier than conversing. Of course, when the game happens to be something like "pretend we are watever", that will tend to be hard, but if it's something like just playing with lego or playing a card game, that's fine.

I'm still "faking it" and "passing" when I'm with kids, but it's something that's easier to fake than with grown-ups.

Never had any problems with children. I'm great at explaining things to them.

I really can't relate to children at all so try to avoid any sort of interaction with them. Fortunately my friend has no interest in having children and my nieces and nephews are all grown up now.

On a few occasions when travelling on trains I have had a small child peer over the top of the seats in front and smile at me. I have then made the mistake of sticking my tongue out at them which they think is the start of some sort of game. Unfortunately sticking my tongue out at them exhausts just about my entire repertoire of things I can do with children so the game doesn't last very long. I've learnt my lesson now though so I just ignore them instead.

I don't deal very well with children either, especially the ones that jump around and scream all the time. Witnessing that only makes me want to find some rope and tie them to the nearest flagpole. Funnily enough, I can somehow put up with my godson despite him generally being like that.

I actually love kids.
Just one thing bugs me, I can not forget the years I was bullied when I talk to them. It's almost creepy remembering it now, how two faced some kids could be.

I don't like babies at all because they're just boring. They don't look cute to me and don't do any of the things that I might be interested in.

Young children aren't very interesting either, because they don't do anything I'd regard as interesting.

Kids are like bottles of wine; you've got to let them age, and they'll gradually improve -- hopefully.

Another thing that bothers me is that that children don't tend to listen to me quite as much as I would like. Maybe I'm just a micromanager, or I think I'm far more important than I actually am.

Interestingly, adults do listen to me most of time and always have.

I think when you see the baby you can be honest to a degree, eg, say that you "don't have the maternal steak" but that her baby is cute/"so tiny"/a brand new life with so much potential/something true that can be take as a compliment. I don't think you have to go all out cooing over it. As a mother, I found other people's cooing over my child exhausting, but then maybe that's just me...

I was never the slightest bit maternal until I had my child so can relate there. I guess I just found children pointless and annoying, whereas now I understand them a bit more...

I have a love-hate thing with babies and children.

If a baby/small child is near me in public (a stranger's offspring) I scowl, panic and want to get away.
Yet, my cousin has a 1-year-old and I love her to bits.

But if I see a small child with unattentive parents/carers in public, I feel inwardly angry if the child could be at risk of danger. I can't stand to even think about a child getting hurt.

I like kids, but only for super short periods of time. Most kids that I know scream and shout way too much. Little girls tend to be full of drama and act like little snobs to each other. They have attitudes about everything. Little boys are easier to connect with. They like some of the games and TV shows that I grew up with. The boys can get too rowdy with each other sometimes. Kids can tell I'm different and they usually prefer the NT adults over me. They almost always ask why I talk weird when they first meet me. Babies are cute, but sometimes the crying is too much. My brother cried a lot when he was a baby and it drove me nuts.

Thank you for the replies, i was thinking of marriage and children nowadays and because of that i started to think how i was never good with children. Maybe i don't have enough maternal instinct or it's because there aren't any kids in our family..

I will never forget how cruel kids can be, and it's like they have no real sense of right and wrong, which they don't unless their parents teach them, which most parents don't because they're clueless and think, if at all, that just because they put up with their kid's antics in public everyone else should, too.

It's summer now so there are more kids around when I go out shopping and stuff. Sometimes I wear earplugs to drown out the shrills coming from their little mouths.

Funny how it's perfectly okay to hate teenagers because they're horrible, but if you hate younger kids or just don't want them around people think you're an evil, abusive monster like Miss Trunchbull from Mathilda.

i work with kids ( camp counsellor ) in a variety of ages, the youngest ones being 5 and the oldest ones being ... 11, i believe ? or 12. regardless, i find them a lot easier to get along with and feel less awkward around than my peers or people who are older than me.

I have a bunch of little cousins ranging from 1 to 10 that I'm around at times, especially on Sundays. It's basically like they have their own little world that I don't get involved in. Really they're just like background noise.

Last Sunday I ate a meal at a table full of them and either they or I might as well have been invisible.

When they're really tiny babies they get my attention a little more. They decided to have me bottle feed one when he was practically a new born and that was kind of cool. But not anything I want to repeat.