Loneliness-thoughts welcomed.

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I know this can be a problem for some. I am quite happy with my own company most of the time. It is good to see family but I don’t make a great effort,or really any effort at all,to meet other people. I am quite asocial.

I think some of my asociality is a defensive response to finding social interaction difficult.

I get a bit lonely.
I think it's because I want to connect with people, but because I can only handle them in small doses I never get beyond a superficial level of relationship.

I’m the same way. Interacting with my family is more than enough social for me. I get overwhelmed by the perceived neediness of some (but not all) other humans.

When I was around thirteen a girl at a school had recently moved to told me that I was difficult to get close to or to be able to get to know...her friends tried to hush her down because they probably thought she was insulting me by saying what she did. I didn`t feel insulted but very surprised and curious because I didn`t know. I tried so hard to be social and to get to know the others and felt I didn`t succeed so her words were actually very interesting to me. But she didn`t say more about it.

I have wondered about that ever since. I still have no idea what it is I am doing wrong or what it is I am not doing that I should do etc. I always just try my best.

There are so many things I find interesting that the people around me don`t and may even find it strange that (and today: a woman my age) someone should be interested of. I had one girl show interest in what book I had bought that I had in my bag form the bookstore and then she begun laughing overbearing when she saw that it was a book on insects and small life forms in ponds...I didn`t understand what was funny about it nut I didn`t hear the end of it for as long as I knew her. She also laughed when she came across my books in my shelves called "Wildflowers". She wasn`t unfriendly. It was more like she found me to be an amusing person but I didn`t feel like one I have always been completely confused about what it takes to come across as normal and not as ...well amusing or controversial.

So I do find it very relaxing to be by my self and not having to cope with the opinions and reactions from others on who I am and what I like and what I am like. I have tried for so many years to fit in and after all these years I am beginning to realize that there might be a very small chance that I will make it.

It's a bitter taste. Everytime I want to connect with other people things go haywire. I want to have a tantrum and cry "it's not fair!", but I can't even do that.

May be you should try to feel a little bit better about yourself and the people around you and just to ignore anybody who doesn't really like you. This is mostly the best way to act.
If the life would be fair the horse would ride the half of the way on the jockey. It not always easy to not being the horse that thinks this way.

Bought me a bastard sword a couple of weeks ago. I like the whistling sound of the long blade in the air. I hope that I always miss the cat. (That was a joke only.) At least as long as I'm for my own nobody has a problem with that.

I live in a 55+ community which I like to joke is a nursing home. Some people here often get together in the community room to watch TV or play games. I do my level best to avoid everyone here, from washing my clothes by hand (therefore eschewing the public washer & dryer room), and taking out my garbage or checking my mail at night.

It's not that I don't like anyone, it's just that I feel more comfortable talking to no one and being socially isolated. I don't know if that's good for me, but I think my trifecta of autism, PTSD and bipolar disorder is what creates that.

It's really tough. When I do most social things, I spend most of the time looking forward to it being over. But if I go through I weekend without seeing anyone, I come out of it feeling depressed.

It's like, in order to avoid getting depressed, I have to do things that, when I do them, I want to stop doing them.

there are far worse things than being relegated to the social reject bin, such as being stuck in a loveless or hostile relationship which I have witnessed with my own eyes and ears. living with myself and me, I never have to duck thrown dishes or argue with anybody about the thermostat setting.

In my experience they that are sad and alone are wont to seek wives. I cannot lightly see a man that seeks a wife but cannot have one. It may be he is a dwarf or cripple, and you say he is sad by reason of oneness. It may as well be he is sad for ugliness sake. It is a matter of personal judging; yet I have seldom heard from a man the words "I am sad, for I live alone". It may be a strange chance that has afforded the thought of this to us on the Internet. Though to my mind they are not manly words, and I would dread the mood of him that said such things to another. Lo this is Internet, and we may say what we will. I know one alone man, but he did not wish it. He once sought a wife, but when she first met him, he underbore such abuse as to his shape or such, as I think he has forsworn wooing. There is a wife for him in some place, but he does not seek her.

Like I said before I'm mostly a loner but I feel similar. When I actually do open up and people don't understand, I retreat back to my loner ways. It's too frustrating to try and find someone that actually do understands your issues and even when they do they never really know how to help.

I am an extreme introvert and very comfortable being alone. But I married an extreme extrovert. So anything in the social department I leave up to my wife. It is a good combination. It always seems to mix it up so life is like a whirl.