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MalchikBrodyaga
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12 Sep 2018, 4:44 pm

Being stuck both socially and academically, sometimes I feel like simply moving someplace far away would magically solve all of my problems. For example, going to Minnesota or Michigan (the schools I used to go to over 10 years ago) would make me automatically younger and give me extra time. But, if I can't go back there, then the other option is to simply go to some other place -- any place where I never been to before -- and that would give me a redo. But I can't go to some other place: I am currently in school doing my second Ph.D., so I can't just pick up and leave. And this makes me wonder: what if I simply take a really long walk in some direction I have never thought of before? I mean, the town where I am stuck at is rather boring, I would much rather be in Minnesota or Michigan than here in New Mexico. But what if -- just what if -- there is that one direction, here in New Mexico, the one I just never thought of, but if only I were to think of it, and go there, it would solve all of my problems? Several years ago I thought internet was it, particularly dating sites. Nope, didn't work. On the contrary, internet addiction kinda ruined my life. So is there any alternative *outside* the internet that would take me into an extra dimension? Like I would wonder someplace and all of a sudden run into a woman that loves me? Nope I don't mean either bar or prostitute. I want the real love, not that fake kind of love. Or I would wonder someplace and run into that really super-duper career center that would tell me how I can still become a theoretical physicist at the late age of 38? Or better yet, wonder somewhere and someone would somehow tell me that I am not 38 after all? Does anyone else ever feel this way?



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12 Sep 2018, 7:31 pm

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Does anyone else wish to find some extra dimension?
No.

I live in the Here and the Now. The past is gone, the future is a dream, and the "What if" is really nothing more than an inverted form of "What isn't".


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12 Sep 2018, 7:41 pm

Why can't you just find a job and drop out of school?



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12 Sep 2018, 8:04 pm

BTDT wrote:
Why can't you just find a job and drop out of school?


Whaaattt? That would make my situation EVEN WORSE. I want to be a theoretical physicist, thats my life time goal. So if I find a job away from theoretical physics that would be like a disaster. If I am at school I am still working towards that goal of becoming theoretical physicist (my first ph.d. is in physics, the second is in math, but I am only calling it math, I am really trying to do physics). The neat thing about being in graduate school is that they hand me a "job": teaching assistant -- but that job involves very little time investment because they are trying to help me focus on my studies. But it pays my tuition AND gives me some money on top of it so that I won't need any other job. But then again, I am going to run out of that support in a year or two from now. So I guess I would have to go do a third ph.d. or something (since physics and math was covered with first two ph.d.-s, the third one would be in philosophy -- meaning, philosophy of physics, so that I would still do physics and call it a philosophy) either that, or try again for a postdoc or something. In the past, the only postdocs I could successfully get were in India and no I am not Indian (I am from Russia, genetically jewish) I just applied there out of desperation. So I guess I need to be better published in order to have more options than just that. I did have some conversations with a couple of professors -- one in India and the other in Scottland -- about the possibility of another postdoc, but its been few years since I talked to them so I am not sure if they would be open to reconsider me now. Back then they said yes its possible, but it went kinda stale.



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14 Sep 2018, 5:40 am

MalchikBrodyaga wrote:
Being stuck both socially and academically, sometimes I feel like simply moving someplace far away would magically solve all of my problems. For example, going to Minnesota or Michigan (the schools I used to go to over 10 years ago) would make me automatically younger and give me extra time. But, if I can't go back there, then the other option is to simply go to some other place -- any place where I never been to before -- and that would give me a redo. But I can't go to some other place: I am currently in school doing my second Ph.D., so I can't just pick up and leave. And this makes me wonder: what if I simply take a really long walk in some direction I have never thought of before? I mean, the town where I am stuck at is rather boring, I would much rather be in Minnesota or Michigan than here in New Mexico. But what if -- just what if -- there is that one direction, here in New Mexico, the one I just never thought of, but if only I were to think of it, and go there, it would solve all of my problems? Several years ago I thought internet was it, particularly dating sites. Nope, didn't work. On the contrary, internet addiction kinda ruined my life. So is there any alternative *outside* the internet that would take me into an extra dimension? Like I would wonder someplace and all of a sudden run into a woman that loves me? Nope I don't mean either bar or prostitute. I want the real love, not that fake kind of love. Or I would wonder someplace and run into that really super-duper career center that would tell me how I can still become a theoretical physicist at the late age of 38? Or better yet, wonder somewhere and someone would somehow tell me that I am not 38 after all? Does anyone else ever feel this way?


The world is full of microcosms. If you had money for the trip* you could leave your life and go live with minimally contacted Amazonia Indians if you were willing to take the risks.

*A schizophrenic Canadian man had been found wandering in the middle of the Amazon just a few years ago. He had wandered on foot from Canada, walking across borders in to the U.S., Mexico, central America...though I am not sure how he got across the Panama Canal being disheveled and undocumented, in to south America and the Amazon. He lived on the streets and scavenged for food in trash cans. I don't recommend doing it this way.

If you live in a busy or diverse enough area, you don't have to travel far to find a different microcosm. It's a matter of changing patterns or doing life differently.



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14 Sep 2018, 10:54 am

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*A schizophrenic Canadian man had been found wandering in the middle of the Amazon just a few years ago. He had wandered on foot from Canada, walking across borders in to the U.S., Mexico, central America...though I am not sure how he got across the Panama Canal being disheveled and undocumented, in to south America and the Amazon. He lived on the streets and scavenged for food in trash cans. I don't recommend doing it this way.


So how did he manage to cross all those borders without documents? And, since we obviously know about him, does it mean he got caught? If so, does it mean he is in jail?

By the way I am not considering doing this. I am just asking out of curiosity.

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If you live in a busy or diverse enough area, you don't have to travel far to find a different microcosm. It's a matter of changing patterns or doing life differently.


I am in Albuquerque. Can you think of any microcosms over here?



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14 Sep 2018, 11:39 am

All autistics should band together and buy an island where we can all live without the constant confusion of social interactions. :heart:



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14 Sep 2018, 12:42 pm

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All autistics should band together and buy an island where we can all live without the constant confusion of social interactions. :heart:


Can I be queen?


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14 Sep 2018, 12:45 pm

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All autistics should band together and buy an island where we can all live without the constant confusion of social interactions.
"Should"?

:roll: ... oh, brother ... not this again ...


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14 Sep 2018, 2:26 pm

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All autistics should band together and buy an island where we can all live without the constant confusion of social interactions. :heart:


I'm down for this, but only after I read all the laws n regulations of this new society :lol:


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14 Sep 2018, 2:28 pm

and to answers to the OP, YUP!

I fantasise a lot about building a cabin somewhere in Iceland and bringing a few good books and just ... yno... read. write, paint. walk about.


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14 Sep 2018, 2:45 pm

Fnord wrote:
MalchikBrodyaga wrote:
Does anyone else wish to find some extra dimension?
No.

I live in the Here and the Now. The past is gone, the future is a dream, and the "What if" is really nothing more than an inverted form of "What isn't".
This has me wondering; why isn't "ifn't" a word?



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14 Sep 2018, 3:44 pm

Gallia wrote:
and to answers to the OP, YUP!

I fantasise a lot about building a cabin somewhere in Iceland and bringing a few good books and just ... yno... read. write, paint. walk about.


Do you know you can BUY a cabin -- a car and a house in one -- and thats not even a fantasy its there? Unfortunately I don't know how to drive, plus I don't have money. But if not for that, I would totally buy it. I don't understand why people buy houses instead of cabins. I mean, cabins are so much better since you can be anywhere you want to be. AND cabins are cheaper at the same time. Well since they are cheaper, that suggests that nobody besides me sees why they are better. I mean, doesn't anyone else want to travel?! I once talked online to someone who lives in a cabin, so I asked her, does she get to move around? But she said no, her cabin stays in the same place. And I could never get her to explain why did she want to miss such a wonderful opportunity to travel. Why stay on the same place anyway, whats the ponit?!



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14 Sep 2018, 3:52 pm

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All autistics should band together and buy an island where we can all live without the constant confusion of social interactions. :heart:


I don't know much about the way buying things work, but it seems like it might actually be possible. The key is that it doesn't have to be "all" autistics bonding together; it just have to be "enough" of them to come up with whatever the amount the island would cost. I mean, just look at the number of people on wrongplanet? Perhaps even that number might be enough if, say, half of them agree to contribute.

This also reminds me of "pioneer little europe" (PLE) project for White people. I guess that one didn't go too far, I am not sure if its due to political opposition or due to the fact that buying that much land is a lot less practical than it might seem. But it certainly seems like something to look at.

Speaking of PLE, sometimes I wish if I could live in a gated community -- any gated community (whether aspie, or PLE, or some religious cult, or what not) my problems would have been solved. Then I would be seen as "in" since the community would be small enough for everyone to be "in". Or, if it doesn't work out, I can always look for another gated community. It would be one of the ways of going into "extra dimension" for sure.



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15 Sep 2018, 6:49 am

MalchikBrodyaga wrote:
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*A schizophrenic Canadian man had been found wandering in the middle of the Amazon just a few years ago. He had wandered on foot from Canada, walking across borders in to the U.S., Mexico, central America...though I am not sure how he got across the Panama Canal being disheveled and undocumented, in to south America and the Amazon. He lived on the streets and scavenged for food in trash cans. I don't recommend doing it this way.


So how did he manage to cross all those borders without documents? And, since we obviously know about him, does it mean he got caught? If so, does it mean he is in jail?

By the way I am not considering doing this. I am just asking out of curiosity.

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If you live in a busy or diverse enough area, you don't have to travel far to find a different microcosm. It's a matter of changing patterns or doing life differently.


I am in Albuquerque. Can you think of any microcosms over here?


This article details all I know on the story.

Canadian man wanders from Canada to Amazon forest.

As for microcosms in Albuquerque, I am not very familiar with that city but surely no two people live the exact same life there. Your neighbor probably has different experiences than you.



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15 Sep 2018, 9:36 am

MalchikBrodyaga wrote:
Gallia wrote:
and to answers to the OP, YUP!

I fantasize a lot about building a cabin somewhere in Iceland and bringing a few good books and just ... yno... read. write, paint. walk about.


Do you know you can BUY a cabin -- a car and a house in one -- and that's not even a fantasy its there? Unfortunately I don't know how to drive, plus I don't have money. But if not for that, I would totally buy it. I don't understand why people buy houses instead of cabins. I mean, cabins are so much better since you can be anywhere you want to be. AND cabins are cheaper at the same time. Well since they are cheaper, that suggests that nobody besides me sees why they are better. I mean, doesn't anyone else want to travel?! I once talked online to someone who lives in a cabin, so I asked her, does she get to move around? But she said no, her cabin stays in the same place. And I could never get her to explain why did she want to miss such a wonderful opportunity to travel. Why stay on the same place anyway, whats the point?!


I can answer that. I used to live in the state of Kansas located in the center of Tornado alley. During the spring/summer months, it is quite common to have very severe storms there. You want to be protected with a good frame over your head during these events. Living in an RV/mobile home (cabin) is not recommended there because they just do not withstand the tornadoes. Some people do have RVs there though, but they do not live out of them. They only use them when they go on vacation (usually within the same state). When not in use, the RVs are put away in storage.

It is quite common to find people in Kansas that live their entire lives within the state lines. They typically do not like to travel much outside of their area, as they prefer the rural life to the congested ones in the big cities.