Living with parents at 29

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I seem to think its abnormal to still at 29 be living with parents even though at the same I don't feel any interest to leave any time soon. My parents are divorced. My mum lives in Kent with her partner and I work part time there and my dad is married to my stepmum in Essex and I occasionally stay there when I'm not working. My parents are fine living with them I always pay them rent every week and I don't see the point in getting a place of your own if you are single as I am. I think you would just feel lonely with a flat on your own. It just seems pointless I seem to think if you are living with parents some people see you as geeky mummy's boy and it annoys me. I keep thinking that I am not living up to expectations when I am in the 20s and I feel like everyone else is. I don't go to bars and places to socialise, I don't have many close friends to go out with to places or holidays and stuff. I only socialise at work and at home and my weekends are not clubbing and drinking and taking selfies but reading, trying to write a book and watching stuff on my chrome book and occasionally playing a game.

And there's nowt wrong with any of that.

Personally, I couldn't stand living with my parents (or anyone else), at age 29 or any other age.

Get yourself some cheap accommodation; benefits should be enough, I live alone and am on benefits. I also live in the UK.

I'm glad you're doing what you want and aren't just fitting in, although living at home is becoming more the

norm anyway.

What's the book about?

Yes, but the OP doesn't feel the same way. They are happy living with their parents.

I say, if it's not broke don't fix it. I don't see the point in getting into financial difficulty if you can live with people you like.

On the other, I am like you, and I didn't cope living with my parents, or with my last room mate, so I'm willing to be skint for the sake of freedom. But I am struggling financially. I'm so bad at maths. I have enough to live on in theory, but I got into debt in the past and it's a juggle to stay a float.

There are pros and cons.

I lived with my parents till I moved in with my current girlfriend at 30. They hated me living with them & my mom stated more than a few times that she felt that a parent's job should be done 1ce the kid finishes skewl(I had NO desire to go to college after I graduated high-skewl). The thing is that I was born with other physical & mental disabilities besides Aspergers that really limit me with employment & being able to handle living alone even if I had the money to. My mom often griped about how I was too lazy to get a job even thou I was applying at any place I thought I could get to for most any job I thought I could do so my only income was SSI before I worked & Social Security Disability after I quit working. I worked about 38 months total. There were no other programs or resources available to help me that I knew about anyways & over half my SSI & then SSDI check were going towards my medical expenses. None of the docs in my area accepted the Louisiana state Medicaid because it didn't pay them enough so I had to also have private health insurance which had copays & deductibles & it didn't cover mental so I had to pay full cost to see my psychiatrist. I just could not afford to give my parents rent when I wasn't working; I did pay the cable/net bill & my phone bill.

My parents were so frustrated with me living with them that they decided to buy me a house but it was NOT move in ready. The plan was for my dad to fix it up cuz he worked in construction but he's extremely bad at finishing projects at home probably partly due to his ADD. My aunt was staying at my grandparents around that time(long story) so my parents decided to fix up one room & let her live there rent free except for taxes & insurance. She felt entitled to stay there cuz she was helping fix the place up alittle so then the plan was for me to move in with her after the place got fixed up. Me & my aunt are extremely incompatible thou & I think she'd be incompatible with most anyone on the spectrum. I would of rathered hang myself than live with her. I would of much rathered found a woman who needed a place to stay because I was very lonely & had NO luck but bad trying to get in a realtionship but we would of had to kick my aunt out for that plan to work & I had NO choice in the matter.

I met my current girlfriend online & she also cant handle living alone due to various disabilities. She had lived alone for a year & realized she couldn't handle it. She also had a Section 8 housing voucher which pays a lot of her rent cuz it's based on household income. She would of probably gave it up & moved back in with her parents if I didn't move in with her. She wanted to be close to her family & I hated living with mine & never had a close realtionship with anyone offline including members of my own family so I moved from Louisiana to Vermont to be with her. I do have a close realtionship with her thou.

I have NO problem with the OP or anyone else living with their parents if it's working for everyone.

I am 28 and I still live at home with my Mom. I hate it because I still feel like a child and I can't do anything without her permission (she can be a real control freak). I can't even drive and I don't have a job because I get disability checks and she is my payee. I don't have any friends to hang out with either and just once I'd like to go somewhere that I choose instead of always having to tag along with my family.

I hope people don't get discouraged by this, but I'm almost 54 (next month) and still live at home. I drive, have a car, work and have a busy social schedule, but I'm not sure if I will ever experience the kinds of changes necessary to accomplish more than my present level of function. I'm not sure if I will ever have a full time job, my own place or get married. I will continue to work hard, but I don't realistically see myself getting much beyond where I am now. I have pretty much plateaued in my development.

I didn't move out until I was 32 years old. I don't see it as something shameful, just practical. A lot of young adults are living with their parents these days.

I’m 36 and have been renting from & living with my parents for a little over 6 years now. When I moved in I was broke and needed their help, now I could afford to move but it wouldn’t be wise financially & my parents could use my help a bit these days. Plus it’s a rather nice house and place to live tbh - I couldn’t afford to live on anything near as big or nice.


Also, rental vacancies are near zero and houses cost Millions of dollars so it’s become the new norm that adult children continue living with their parents here, so there’s no stigma, really.

I'm into History and I'm planning on writing book on bad (evil) people in History like Hitler and so on. There is so many books on good and not-so good and inspirational people in History but not so much the bad stuff.

I'm 32, am on disability and live with my parents and pay rent. I think living on my own with autism and all my physical health problems would be impossible atm.