Objession with perfection

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I have obsession with having everything perfect or close to perfect like perfectly clean house or perfectly working car and in physical world perfection is tough to achieve and maintain for long.

In computer domain its easier to get that and keep it this way, well unless humans involved they always mess everything up.

How common for an Aspie to have desire for perfection?

Years ago when I was singing karaoke, I always tried to sound exactly like The Beatles. I wanted my singing to be perfect. There was a period of time when I had 60s Mod hair, because I always wanted my hair to be straight and perfect.

i am the same, i love to have everything in order , arrive on time, clean house/car etc. however i also have a major problem when it comes to my efforts to achieve these things, it seems that when something doesn't meet my standards and i can't make things how i need them to be, i seem to just give up on them, to the point where what was once important to me becomes something i neglect and even begin to resent.
Ive realised that for me having an obsession with perfection seems to have financial implications to. this wasn't a problem in the past as i earned good money and i could i suppose this eased the process of having things just right. at the moment though my income isn't so good and this has impacted how easy it is for me to have things how i need them. The knock on effect is then that if things aren't how i need them they become neglected. This then seems to trigger depression and resentment.
a good example would be when i got a new van a couple of years back, it was leased but my dream van and it was a miracle to be honest that i was accepted for the lease, id overstretched myself financially but it would be my pride an joy, i love having an immaculate car/van and always had them cleaned professionally.
The day i got it i took it out, and the biggest bulldog u have ever seen ran into the road as i was cruising along, i had no time to react and the dog literally ran into the side of the van hitting my door and denting it, the dog was fine and the owner laughed it off, the door was out of line now and clipped the front wing when it opened and closed, it made the worst noise ever and chipped the paint off both the door and the wing. that night the front VW badge was also stolen, as i said i had overstretched myself financially so repairs weren't immediately possible, it went on the to do list, over the next couple of weeks the panels began to rust and the noise would haunt me, that van went from being my dream to being a nightmare in the space of a month all i guess because i couldn't deal with the imperfections, like i said it may sound stupid to some but this then depressed me, the van never got fixed and it was like a chain around my neck for the rest of the lease.

I'm not sure if I'd characterize myself as a perfectionist, but I do tend to get upset if I do not do things with an optimal result.

Not sure if I can properly describe it, but as an example, if I buy something and then find out I could have gotten it cheaper elsewhere, that will tend to bother me a lot. If I order something at a restaurant only to find I really don't like it. (I could have ordered something else!). If I do something and it's not the best I feel I could have done, it really bothers me and I'll ruminate and sulk.

I don't make it an objective to be perfect, but if it's not then I will certainly berate myself.

I do like staying with a job until I get it right, but usually, only a design can be perfect. Everything else is "within tolerance" because I can't do any better. However, the design is only perfect until requirements change. In general, I can have more things in my life that are OK, or fewer that are quite good. See the title spelling.

One day, a newlywed couple were decorating their new home with wallpaper. The man was careful about having the sheets centered between doorways, ending the pattern neatly at the ceiling, and so on. His bride, OTOH, was even putting on sheets with a small jog in the pattern where it met at the seam. As the day wore on, tempers got shorter and shorter, until finally the guy shouted "You know what the problem is? I'm a perfectionist, and you're not!"
"That's right!" she shot back "and that's why I married YOU, and YOU married ME!"

I am definitely a perfectionist, especially if the task plays to a strength of mine. Even if I don't know much about it, I want to at least perform adequately without making a complete fool of myself. When I'm playing tennis, every new technique I learn is a bonus for me.

"Nothing in life is perfect. But in the imperfection lies perfect reality."
Shunryu Suzuki Roshi

I’m a perfectionist

I WISH I was one LOL

I didn't notice that!

Is it against forum rules to be a grammar nazi towards the boss , am I playing with fire

Periods are essential at the end of sentences.

That goes for bosses, as well as serfs.

I was just trying to be funny , I'm not a grammar nazi , I'd be corrected too many times if I was.

I know that, Sir