Grandparents with Autism

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Do I see signs that my paternal grandmother had autism?

I think my grandpa is autistic, and I'm sure my great grandpa was.

My maternal grandpa might have it. Not sure though. It's just something my mom suspects.

My grandfather had reportedly following traits:
-Avoided people at the working place (his supervisor thought it was remarkable)
-Had a highly one-sided diet
-Made his first wife to escape and divorce due to his bursts of aggression
-He was into UFOs and astronomy

I might have had some relatives who were "off the beaten path" so to speak. I was the first person in my family to be noticeably different from everyone else.

^ This. Well at least in terms of autism anyways. My mom was the first to be noticeably different from the upper middle class white people that she comes from.

Maternal grandfather, I suspect.

Worked nights because he said it was quieter at night.

Insisted on silence during mealtimes (7 kids) and was highly irritated by utensils and crunching sounds.

Had a room in the basement that no one, not even his wife was allowed in where he would spend solitary time.

Hated shaking hands with others in church.

Good with numbers and liked to go to the horse races and golf. He was into both very intensely and loved to talk about both topics at length.

Had a heart attack in his fifties from stress and became "nicer" after that, but it was probably that the kids were raised and he retired soon after.

I highly suspect my grandfather on my fathers side was.
Was an accountant, very “rigid”. Only socialization was with family and even that was formal.

My grandmother was ASD without a doubt. When she opened her gifts at Christmas she would flat out say, "Well, I would never wear this, I'll need the receipt to return it". She had no pretenses and very bluntly said things that inadvertently insulted many people. But she was a nice woman at heart and I realize now she meant no harm.

Trigger?

All of the men on my father's side including my brother, my dad, my grandfather and even my great grandfather have had the characteristics of autism. My paternal grandfather in particular was affected. He had such depression and social anxiety that he left my grandmother after 40 years of marriage, became reclusive and 'vanished' from my family for many years. He returned briefly before committing suicide.

My maternal grandparents were much more sociable and extroverted, but also quite OCD. I wouldn't know how to categorise them.