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I'm like an android, like Data from Star Trek: The Next Generation. I have barely any personality. At the art class I go to I'm the most boring person there. Other people interact in a fun way sometimes. I can't think of anything interesting to say. Beyond clichéd things like "Ooh, your picture looks good" I've not said much else.

Well there's more to personality than how we interact with other people, and there are more ways to be interesting than talking. I actually prefer people who don't talk a lot.

Do you really think you're boring? Or do you just feel bad when comparing yourself to those people? I've often felt like you describe, but I realized I don't really want to socialize like them. I just felt bad being the odd one out. I usually find most of them boring--they just find each other interesting

I am legitimately boring myself. I don't have that much to add to any given conversation, I'm not knowledgeable on any topic, I don't get up to exciting things in my spare time. But it's OK, I know that a lot of people are put off by it, but I don't let it bother me too much.

I don't know much about any particular subject myself. I have a short attention span. I wish I could let it not bother me in a way. It does bother me, though, what others think about me.

I've been a wet napkin my whole life. I've always had very few intrests & preferred them to spending time with people except for my girlfriend.

Do you feel self-conscious and uncomfortable at your art class when other people are chatting? If so I'm proud of you for going despite the social difficulties you experience. I would love to pursue some classes such as you describe but I know I'd be extremely nervous around people and feel too awkward to attend. I know nothing about pop culture and I find that's what most people are discussing in most venues.

Good choice , Data is the best character in Next Gen imo and the one I related to the most when growing up.

Yeah I do feel self-conscious when people are chatting. There's a feeling of there being nowhere to hide. All of us face each other in a cluster of tables in the middle of the room, all going around this one big table-made-out-of-tables. I sense my lack of things to say a lot of the time means other people might think I don't like them, so it's kind of got a bit awkward now.

I might be assuming too much but I think you would be well liked if you did something like this. You come across very friendly on here and have a lot of knowledge of culture and a sense of fun.

I’ve been the center of attention my whole life because of originality. I’m assuming it’s attributed to autism.

Last edited by Buc on 12 Dec 2018, 8:56 am, edited 1 time in total.

Thank you for the vote of confidence. To be candid, I have taken art classes which sound almost identical to yours in the past few years. There was the dreaded big table (egads!) but sometimes small round tables where people sat in groups. If I arrived early and claimed an empty table it seemed that people would gravitate to other tables when they arrived. If I arrived later when the tables were already occupied I felt terrified joining a group. It seemed people made friends very quickly or they came with people they already knew. Those who seemed shy and quiet always ended up very outgoing.

Sure, I chatted a bit but I felt very fake and it was exhausting. I was extremely self-conscious and dreaded going on many occasions. It didn't help that I had a PTSD breakdown while presenting my art during one of the classes, and in my opinion I made a fool of myself. I would love to take a local University seminar or audit a lecture class but I know from experience I'm best to stay home and read the material alone.

Congrats again on going. I hope you continue. Maybe you can post some of your art here?

I used to play the theme tune on my MP3 player when walking around town and pretend I'd teleported for a factfinding mission.



I'm a bit confused. Do you mean that you have lots to say and people thus find you interesting? I've met some autistic people like that. I went to a support group once and one of the people was fascinating, he had a witty thing to say about anything, and almost super quick ability to think of something to fill in an awkward silence.



Maybe it's just an Autistic thing then? We can't help but struggle in these situations? I feel fake when I'm talking with people at the classes too. That's a fitting word to use. I'm thinking of trying to study a performing arts evening class next. If I can pretend to be someone else could that possibly take the pressure off talking? Probably not, it'll be a disaster. I'll try anyway, probably. I'll try to get some pics of the art at the next class.

Sounds like you used to have a rich fantasy world - just like me

fifasy,
I took Acting classes in Uni through the Drama department. They were actually very fun! I never had to participate in a large scale production but the classes were relaxed. We did a lot of vocal training and silly things like juggling (to promote physical coordination while speaking). It was a relief to be other characters, as you say. We got to sit on the carpeted floor and everyone had to define their own space. (Perfect!) I think performing arts would be worth a try!

I don't think I'm boring. People say they like talking to me. However, I know that my interests are very different from those of most people. Most people don't follow tennis as I do and most have never heard of Denis Istomin, but he inspires me. A lot of people I know have pets, so that is a common interest.

Yep , never heard of him till I came here. I hadn't even heard of Tashkent but know he's from there.