Double standards you encounter on a regular basis

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A primary one I have is to be accused of isolating (though I have a steady routine of people and places) by someone who only talks to their mother and 1 other person on the phone, and half the time ignores the other person's calls and texts

Another one by the same person is to be accused of being ungrateful, after I give up a Sunday to fix an appliance they broke, finish the painting job their professional contractor friend flaked on, and bust my padded tail cooking a dinner I'm sure they can eat only to have them throw a fit because I put ginger on the chicken (which is an ingredient one of their favorite restaurant uses). BTW these weren't all on the same day.

I could go on about how they consider me a hoarder (although I don't see them out there cleaning their animals' waste) but I'll just leave it at how their unsolicited help is others taking matters upon themselves.

Strangely enough I don't get that 'do as I say not as I do' mentality anywhere else, at least that I take into account

One common double-standard I can think of is that it's usually considered acceptable by society for girls to look/act slightly masculine(tomboys), but then it's often considered unacceptable for guys to look/act feminine.

OP, not to get semantical, but what you're describing aren't double standards. Your scenarios are known as hypocrisy.

Double-standard would be if a person applies one set of criteria to you, and a different set to another person. There'd have to be at least 3 people involved: the two who have different standards, and the one setting the different standards.

In this case, since they're criticizing you for being a certain way while seemingly oblivious to their own actions, it would be hypocrisy on their part.

I like the avatar by the way...Zappa & the Mothers I believe.

So is it a double standard for a person to be gentle and reassuring with his ex-girlfriend and his best friend's wife when they call and talk about their problems, but to be rude and abrupt with his own wife? And then talk about his ex behind her back?

If an ASD person has soft toys/character clothing and likes to watch cartoons: symptom of ASD, person should be encouraged to take part in more "adult" pastimes.
If a "normal" person has soft toys/character clothing and likes to watch cartoons: endearing and quirky in a hipster kind of way.

Is this a double standard?

Aspie: ''That person just glared at me!''
NT: ''Well maybe they're just having a bad day or something. You need to learn that other people have problems too''

NT 1: ''That person just glared at me!''
NT 2 (to Aspie): ''I know you're having a bad day today but the first thing you must learn is to not take it out on other people by glaring at them and expecting them to guess why!''

It drives me absolutely mad, as though I've got to consider other people's feelings all the time, but I also have feelings (in fact I'm more sensitive than the average person) but I'm not meant to be considered.

How too easily reactions and feelings I have, or how I act is seen in light of me being aspie, while everyone else's actions, reactions and feelings are seen in light of the context.

How I'm wrong while they are right, or had reasons for being/doing wrong.

A double standard is the application of different sets of principles for similar situations, or two different people in the same situation.

"I bought your brother got his own car when he graduated, but you'll have to buy your own when you graduate because you're younger."


Hypocrisy is the state of pretending to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that one does not actually have.

"Yeah, I took your porn stash, and I'm not giving it back until I've checked every page for ... misspelled words ..."

To be honest, I've always tried to stick with what I believe in but my actions don't always follow as such and I end up being a hypocrite with double standards. It's totally unintentional..

There is a double standard I have noticed down my way(melb):

When fans at a football game (aussie rules) misbehave (as in breaking things, starting fights etc), the press treats it as an isolated incident.

When fans at a soccer game behave in the same way the press applies the logic that if those fans misbehaved then all the fans at the game are troublemakers.

A man who speaks his mind in an upfront, honest manner is confident.

A woman who speaks her mind in an upfront, honest manner is a b[censored].