Were you/are you talkative?

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I'm very curious about this? Because there seems to be this stereotype that autistics never talk but I know a lot of times some often talk excessively. Where do you think you fall into this category? Personally I have always had an issue with talking too much because not understanding personal boundaries/when to stop talking is one of my biggest problems.

I'm not entirely sure how to normalise the notions of talkative, somewhat talkative and not talkative. I am assuming that by talkative you mean "talking more than an average person," that by somewhat talkative you mean "sometimes talking more than an average person," and that by not talkative you mean "never talking more than an average person." I answered on that basis, but I'm not really sure if that is what you intended.

Also not sure what you mean. Your issue is one that many of us are accused of. "Talking Over" people when warmed up to a subject in a conversation.



In general, if not required by a job or parenting, I say very little.
But I was an early talker despite hating to be touched and doing strange things.

In a comfy circle I may become quite the chatty cathy. Especially if a special interest is triggered.

But I HAAAAAAAaaaate, despise, loathe being trapped on the phone too long or chatting after I am all chatted out or have no interest in the issue. Even if it a loved one. I feel physical nausea, ear ringing and itching to hostilty if I cannot escape conversation.

So cant give an answer to the above other than idk or none above

I can spend the entire day at work not talking to anyone, apart from work related functional aspects which deal with the point and then end. As I'm really, really bad at small-talk I try to avoid it at all costs, however when it ends up happening I do find that I just don't shut up. I tend to go on, and on, and on, and once most of my arsenal of "chatty topics" are used up I tend to go onto other things that probably aren't appropriate for casual conversation - simply because I don't know how or when to end the conversation, so I just keep going. Yes, guilty of interrupting people and talking over them a lot too.

It gets quite embarrassing sometimes, like "why the hell did I mention that".

Also, if conversation strays to a subject I'm interested in then I go into full monologue mode, for quite long periods. I guess some people would say I'm talkative, but realistically it's just a coping method. Other people, I guess, would say I hardly speak.....

Apparently I started talking around 10 months, in sentences. The adults around me found it a bit freaky. Despite being chatty, I had several unusual speech patterns and some speech impediments that led me to have a few years of speech therapy in primary school in order to sound more like other kids. Apparently I had a pedantic monotone, had difficulty regulating and modulating my tone and volume (still do), a lisp, and some weird cadence issues. I have auditory processing issues, but I did like playing with language and spent one entire Summer insisting on only speaking in iambic pentameter.

This was in the 1970's, these days the odd speech along with all my other behaviors might have warranted some more formal assessment.

I was silent in social situations until in my 20's I started telling myself "nobody's better than me" and started crossing the threshold of social interaction. I also currently have perhaps some hypomanic talk talk talk times, especially when it comes to call call call on the phone.

I talk a lot, I fear silence to be honest so I fill it. Whether I fill it appropriately or not is the problem. I apologised to mum on the dog walk tonight because I wasn't talking for five minutes - I have a sore throat - and she didn't talk either. She said 'you don't have to always talk'.

Only if I'm with someone I like (not very often).

I selected other because I can be either silent or not able to stop talking. It depends on my energy level and the situation.

I used to be talkative and very active, almost destructive, before I was 8 or so. To the point I was compared to this Looney Tunes character:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgXj-GvPGWo

Now I'm the opposite.

Depends really. I can be. People who know me really well would probably say Im pretty talkative, while people who dont know me really well would probably say Im really not.

I can be super talkative and ramble on and on about subjects I enjoy talking about (usually things that bore the heck out of the people forced to listen to the point where theyre begging me to stop) I also tend to be very talkative about things Im passionate about, including debates and arguments because I have a need for people to hear what I have to say.
I can be chatty with my friends and family and happily talk for hours about anything and everything that comes to our heads. I tend to like to say whats on my mind and while Im not a 'chatty' person, I definite talk plenty with the people I like. This only works with people I am genuinely close to however because I cannot do small talk very well.

Now, if I meet someone for the first time, am in a more professional setting, am nervous or anxious, dont really know the person well, am in a down mood, feel like I dont have anything to talk about, am distracted, etc etc I will be the absolute opposite of talkative. I can be unnervingly silent and not say a word for long periods of time. I can shut down conversations with my lack of input and often find myself sitting in awkward silence at a table as other people desperately try and think of things to talk about. A lot of school interactions went this way. Lunch tables especially were filled with others gossiping and me sitting silently on the sidelines. I never know what to say in social setting that include larger groups of people especially if Im not particularly close with all of them.
This applies even in close personal conversations too tho. I can barely hold a phone conversation with my own father without lapsing into awkward silence and cutting the call short. If there is no reason for me to talk, than I dont. Simple as that. I have to be really engaged in a conversation to want to say anything. Otherwise, Im content just being silent.

In a typical group of people, I am the one who speaks much less than anyone else. Does that count as "never being talkative"? It's not that I don't speak, but just that I don't speak unless I have something that I feel is worth saying. As far as I can tell, most people are willing to speak even if they don't actually have anything worth saying.

I tended to be quiet but I wound talk a lot when I got started on something or when I was hyper &/or excited by something. I'm more quiet nowadays. I mostly just talk to my girlfriend(she thinks I'm a pretty quiet person) or I talk to people when I have to interact with them for something like a cashier or doctor.

I'm talkative only with rare friends.

I'm generally pretty quiet. I have social anxiety and selective mutism. But if I'm in the right mood and get comfortable enough with someone, or if I get going on the right topic and am not met with negative reactions, I will talk a lot. I don't really have a setting between "can hardly get two words out of me" and "will not shut up"

I overestimate the extent to which I talk. This may perhaps be because socialising/taking part in conversations feel like quite a chore, so when I do it feels as if it takes up more time than it does. Many others with ASD may feel the same way.

There was an occasion, in year eight or year nine at secondary school (i.e. when I was around 13) when I said something to a fellow student, and he was shocked because it was apparently the first time he'd ever heard me talk in the two years we'd been there.