wrongcitizen wrote:
I pretty much have difficulty with everything social when stressed or overwhelmed. It gets worse because the person talking starts to get aggressive and pushy and I end up shutting down completely. To them I look like I have a learning disability or attention issue, but in reality time slows down and I try to process the bright red of their turtleneck, the numbers on their tag, the smell of their aroma, characteristic details of their face, flies that are about to land on someone's meal, the weird canyon-shape in the lamp shade, the wood grainy texture of the chair I'm sitting on, that weird piece of hair sticking up, that really ugly shape on the wall paper, how the location of the microwave has moved a foot from last week, where it was last under the portrait of my boss and to the right of a filing cabinet which is no longer there, why tiles are white and black on the floor, etc. etc. I end up memorizing lots of that information like a photograph unfortunately, and later when I come back I remember everything that happened before like I'm reliving it. I also get negative feelings associated with places where I'm stuck and can't leave while being overwhelmed.
TIME SLOWS DOWN. I can relate to that. In reality it is really that my mind is spinning up in speed and the world is slowing down. You are remembering all the negative visual content associated with the current melt-down so that you can avoid the reoccurrence in the future.
There is a way to overcome meltdowns. Once you learn it you will never have a meltdown again. When you are in a meltdown, your brain components begin to shut down. They go offline. At this exact moment, it is possible for you to shut down the emotional side of your brain. You shut down all feelings: FEAR, HATE, ANGER, RAGE. But you don't allow your analytical side of your brain to shut down. Instead you spin it up and review all the possible solutions to your current threatening situation. In a split second you look at all the possible choices that you have (there are millions) and pick one.
Now this is really important. Once you pick the best choice, you perform the exact action to remove yourself from or end the threatening situation. By implementing the action, you release the stored stress energy and end the panic attack. You are no longer trapped in a cage and as a result you end the trauma.
Disclaimer: All actions have consequences. One should try and avoid breaking laws and workplace regulations. For example some of these potential actions can have negative consequences (for example you might be fired from your job). This will need to be factored in your final analysis prior to implementation.
Last edited by jimmy m on 19 Feb 2019, 9:45 am, edited 1 time in total.