do u wish u were normal

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just a normal life

Sometimes. I wish I didn't have sensory issues and meltdowns, and I wish I didn't get fatigued by social interaction, speaking etc. I do like seeing things differently though. I get a sense of pride when people point out that I notice things they don't, or that I have a very unique way of perceiving the world. I like my IQ as well. I think my autism definitely contributed to my FSIQ of 120 and my verbal IQ of 141. Neither of those is considered "normal".

I wish I didn't struggle so much with day to day activities like grocery shopping, taking public transport, going to new places, etc. but I have to admit, I think being "normal" -- just an average 26-year-old female with a video-game-playing boyfriend and skinny jeans and uggs and a degree in English or liberal arts, who liked shopping and spending time on social media and reading celebrity magazines -- would be intensely boring, and would kind of render me invisible.

Whenever I'm feeling frustrated or annoyed by my autism or anxiety or depression or PTSD, I go back to my favourite line from one of my favourite movies, The Imitation Game; "No one normal could have done that." ("That" being inventing the world's first computer, which was used to crack the Germans' unbreakable code during WWII and single-handedly win Britain and allies the war).

I wish I was NT. I know I have a normal life, but I wish I was normal in my brain. I wish I didn't have this complex social awkwardness that didn't act as a barrier that prevents me from getting past the acquaintance stage of a friendship. My social awkwardness is so complex, that it's hard to pinpoint what I am doing wrong and what I'm not. It's more like some sort of vibe I just give off. I could really do without that.

I wish I was like my cousin. She is the total opposite of me; she makes friends really easily, is popular, confident, gets high-paid jobs, is always out socialising when not at work, and even got A's and B's at school. What I'd give to be her.

I wish my execitive functioning was much better but most of my autistic traits I have no desire to change.

I wish it was possible for me to get a romantic partner, and that is probably hindered by aspergers, but if that was different then I wouldn't be too worried.

I wish I didn't have the disabilities that come with ASD, even very mild cases like mine, like barriers in making friends/finding romantic partners and a general feeling of not understanding social cues, as well as sensory issues. But I do like having a higher IQ than average and having intense interests.

Yes

Neurotypical and cisgender.

Autism has advantages

But not many

In the current situation, neurotypical is more functional

I only just wish that some people who knew of my case; could just stop blaming *my* own case of autism for any consequential crap I'm having and help me resolve those things.
But no, those people thought it's a part of autism. Therefore deemed unresolvable and have to be worked around like another related learning disability when it isn't the case. Something is literally wrong with me, and it's nothing to do with autism or being autistic. When there isn't, autism is more of an advantage of everything than a mere reaction dysfunction -- I wish people understand this.
Doesn't help that my major issue is availability, that I literally cannot afford anymore than just being autistic. People from where I live literally cannot afford to be sick or needy and ended up less functioning -- and so I cannot have that either even more than most.

If I were a needy type of autistic, of course I would've wished I'm an NT with a normal life -- getting those desires denied by autism. Except, I'm not. Nothing is denied to me so far -- if anything, my household's income and the country's current progress denied me more than autism does.
And, if I have a 'normal life', I'd probably worse off as I'm. If I grew up in a more progressive country, yeah I might've more likely wished I'm an NT with normal life.
But not here. 'Normal life' here is usually a hopeless case of abandoned hopes and dreams, ignorable bliss and perpetual mundane struggle (poverty) above else -- if you're 'average' here, you're practically down to luck so to speak and I'm not kidding.
I'd probably be one of those troublemaking types, than the kind who just go with the flow if I were an NT.

So, no. Just no. For the sake of myself and everyone else, no.
On top of that, I'm quite fulfilled myself, and I don't have an innate social desires or drive to sought it. It was nice to have the bond and connections, but I don't miss or yearn for it. The good social stuff is just a bonus to me than a must have, and I got no real desire for romance so I best keep it that way.

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Every damn day.

Never in a million years. If I was normal, I wouldn't be the person that I am.

I'd like a free trial of "normal" to see if I like it or not.

Of course

It would not undo the pain I felt in the past from bullying in my youth, so the answer is no. If it was done before the bullying started, I might have had a different answer.

I would rather have the choice of non-esistance than to be normal now.

I sort of wish I was normal sometimes. I would maybe be better at school and not be in highschool at 19.

I wouldnt have meltdowns or sensory overload. I would be able to have normal conversations and to talk in a way that is normal for my age. I probably wouldnt be picked on. I also might have more opportunities if I were neurotypical. My parents would have less of my issues to deal with. But I also like how I am unique

Normal? Pffft. Not a chance.

Do I wish I could interact with people? Have extended conversations? Be able to focus on the task at hand? Function normally in a job? Absolutely.