How to handle jealousy?

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I don't tend to get jealous very often but have been having issues with it lately for two reasons,
I have to take an extra year of school
I don't know anyone else taking another year of school, every autistic person and dyslexic person in my year group I know are graduating, also a friend of mine with down syndrome and I keep thinking, why am I the one stuck?
A ton of people keep having kids
Many of my oldest sister's friends, my cousin, my uncle, still very jealous of my mom for getting teddy. The thing is, while I'm aware I'm not ready for kids, I really want to be a mother.

How do I lesson the feeling of jealousy?

I have difficulty figuring out emotions and how to handle them...a good source of information is Psychology Today.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog ... o-about-it

1. You're young. It's only one extra year. You have all the time in the world. I went to college 18 years after I graduated high school---when I was 36. At least, you will be 19, instead of 36.

2. Trust me: having children without a considerable amount of support induces envy to those who don't have the responsibility of raising kids. When you meet the right man, you will have kids---with the support of this "right man." Yes, one can be a single parent, and be successful---but it's a lot harder than when you have the full support of another person (whether man or woman).

I'm not sure how to deal with jealosy in general, but in these two cases, you should try looking at the bright side:

Problem 1: Instead of graduating with barely passable grades, you have an extra year to get better ones.

Problem 2: You really are very young; you have plenty of time! It's not like I don't get you; I've known for a fact that I want to be a mother one day since I was twelve, but I'm 24 already and don't even have a partner, yet I haven't given up hope. Just be patient and give yourself time to find a proper man, save up for the expenses a child is sure to bring and learn some basics of taking care of a child and your home so that when you do become a mother you won't be completely helpless.

At age 17, one year does not matter that much.

Nobody will know that you took five years in high school unless you or someone tells them


Doubt anyone cares

One more year could be an advantage in that you have more time to develop academic skills

Look up:. "Redshirt" college athlete

If the school made me take five years instead of four, I would have taken:

Computer science (seriously, could be the most important class I failed to take)

Auto shop

Art

Home economic

Don't know all the electives offered

But could benefit from a couple more





Not everyone has children

Not many seventeen year olds have children


The ones that do, often do not earn enough $$$ to pay for it


What is so great about children?

Get a pet or adopt a child


But seriously children take time, money and energy


The world contains a lot of unwanted children


You are only 17 and can wait