Attwood Quote Origin

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Tony Attwood is sometimes quoted as saying, "You don't suffer from Aspergers. You suffer from other people". This is so true. I originally found this quote a number of years ago at the website aspieinthefamily.com and always assumed that it came from one of Attwood's books but I had no idea which one. I'm in the process of updating a list of my most important Aspie references and web links so I will have them all in one place. So I set out once more to try to find the source of that quote. Tonight, I found that same quote spoken by Attwood in a clip from the video "Clay Marzo - Just Add Water" but I still don't know if this is the original source or if Attwood was only repeating a comment in that video the he had previously written elsewhere. Can anybody tell me what the true origin of that quote is? Thanks.

I'm not really the sort to blame other people for my problems. I tend to blame myself and the way Asperger's makes me think.

Although I do blame other people for my social anxiety because when they stare at me it's like they don't realise how self-conscious they're making me feel. I think society needs to be educated about social anxiety.

I don't believe Aspergers is a "disease" one "suffers" from.

I do believe other people can make people with Aspergers "suffer" for various reasons---most of them "social."

"You don't suffer from Aspergers. You suffer from other people".

I love that quote and agree with it.

No idea where it came from though, I also saw it on the "Clay Marzo - Just Add Water" video on YouTube.

Agreed with 100%.

NTs often think in irrational, ineffective and destructive ways. Despite this, they don't blame themselves for being NT. So why should you blame yourself for being who you are?

He may have elaborated on Friedrich Nietzsche's famous quote: "Hell is Other People".

That was Sartre.

You're absolutely correct -- he described the social domination of others on ourselves as a form of "Hell".Thus, I think that Atwood was elaborating on  Nietzsche's  Sarte's quote.

I'm always glad to be of help!

Thanks for another quote that just got added to my reference list.

I tried to do an internet search and couldn't come up with anything about where the quote came from. I searched through the "Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" (I have a pdf) and it is for sure not in that book.

I did find this list of AS quotes, though. There are some good ones in there.
They're not all gems. Just thought I'd share:
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/aspergers

No idea where it came from either...

BTW, this has been my belief for over 30 years...
Hence I reasoned it is better for me personally to avoid virtually all social contact, which I do...

I'm retired and financially independent, so this works for me...
Unfortunately, most autistics are forced to interact with others to gain life experience (if they are young), establish relationships, earn money...
I guess it is something to work towards if you aren't interested in a significant other relationship or creating a family situation...

I think Tony Attwood has used that phrase in lectures and public talks, some of which have been televised via YouTube, on in QandA sessions on line.
ThecAsk Dr Tony series springs to mind.