am I the only one that wants a cure??

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31 Aug 2015, 6:20 pm

another rant from me, but I'm majory pissed this time so no BS.
lemme start off by saying I hate, no, utterly f*****g loathe this disorder. i feel like i'm the only person in existence that wants a cure for autism /AS syndrome. seriously, it's caused me nothing but pain, misery grief and embarrassment. it's done NOTHING good for me what so f*****g ever and if they were to hypothetically invent a pill that gets rid of it, i'd take it in a heartbeat. i hate how out of touch I feel with my friends, and before you know it all anti NT f***heads start running your mouths, it's not even their fault that i'm like this. i don't want to get new friends because it just wouldn't be the same. nobody can replace them but i'm sick to f*****g death of feeling like I don't fit in and when i try I end up making a total f*****g clown of myself. if some people actually commit suicide over this f*****g disease, well, can't say i f*****g blame them. f**k aspergers
btw i'm not hating on everyone with autism, I just need to let out all my rage and frustration.
and yes, i'm aware of certain aspie geniuses like gates Einstein blah blah blah, but i'm not them so if you're coming here to prove me wrong on my thread then f**k off. not in the mood for it.
thx to anyone who takes the time to read this



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31 Aug 2015, 6:26 pm

I don't blame you for wanting a cure.

But the real "cure" is being able to adjust to your surroundings, despite your AS.

I am not anti-NT at all. I like some NTs, can't stand others. I like some with AS, can't stand others.

You will be able to do it. Just take advice from well-meaning people, and practice being decently social.

If you're strong enough, instead of being a negative clown, you could become a positive clown.

I believe, over the years, that I went from being a negative clown to a positive clown through knowing how to adapt to my environment.



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31 Aug 2015, 6:32 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I don't blame you for wanting a cure.

But the real "cure" is being able to adjust to your surroundings, despite your AS.

I am not anti-NT at all. I like some NTs, can't stand others. I like some with AS, can't stand others.

You will be able to do it. Just take advice from well-meaning people, and practice being decently social.

If you're strong enough, instead of being a negative clown, you could become a positive clown.

I believe, over the years, that I went from being a negative clown to a positive clown through knowing how to adapt to my environment.

wasn't talking about you bud, just the aspies who jump on the anti NT bandwagon.
you gave a good answer last time and I respect you



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31 Aug 2015, 6:38 pm

When I was in high school, I used to get pissed--just like you.

I once went into the bathroom when somebody teased me, and just about locked myself in.

A teacher had to talk me out of there.

Really.....screw those who laugh at you. Prove those people wrong by getting good grades. And don't react to the people teasing you. Ignore them. They'll usually go on to someone else because they'll be bored of your non-reaction.

I'm no Einstein, either, no Bill Gates. I'm just an average schmuck in the street, really.

But I do know that having AS is nothing to be ashamed of. And if people want to make you feel ashamed, tell them to f**k off (either in your mind--or, if you have to, to their face).

Just continue to study, and get good grades. Once you get to college, things WILL get better for you.



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31 Aug 2015, 7:27 pm

I feel you...

I used to wish I could fix my social awkwardness and fixation issues.
Now however I feel that if I were to fix it I would lose my intense focus on things I love and be too caught up with friends. I wouldn't accomplish what I have now accomplished. But that's my life, and not yours, and may not apply to you at all and I won't hate you for it.

I hate when people feel like they speak for everyone on the spectrum--it's on both sides. Those that want to erase autism completely, and those that spew hatred at autistics who actually do want a cure.
I think kraftiekortie had the best answer; the only cure is learning to adjust to your surroundings.



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31 Aug 2015, 7:29 pm

Were you left back a grade?

If so, don't be ashamed.

Just get better grades. Focus on your studies.

It doesn't matter for college whether you are left back. If you get good grades senior year, plus you do well in the SATs/ACTs, you'll get into a good college.



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31 Aug 2015, 7:42 pm

Yes, I want a cure too.



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31 Aug 2015, 8:43 pm

I want to cure my symptoms as well. I hate the way I relate to people and my body moves. I'm trying to fix my symptoms, but I keep getting sick.


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31 Aug 2015, 8:48 pm

I definitely want a cure.



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31 Aug 2015, 9:29 pm

I want a cure for the parts of my autism that annoy me (certain mental processing styles that don't achieve the results I desire), but I don't know of anything that would cure any of it, so instead I look for coping strategies, which are often just as good. Perhaps I'll discover some mental exercises that would be helpful.

In theory, if there's enough spare time available, it might be possible to identify exactly the traits that cause the distress, and then to take each one in turn and find by experiment whether it's a matter of learning to overcome it by exercises or a matter of determining and applying the best coping strategies. I think that's what many Aspies (and possibly people in general) do, though not necessarily by direct, systematic conscious study. Self-improvement is a good thing to pursue, especially if life sucks so much that nothing else gives any pleasure.

I seriously doubt that there is any instant cure. The condition is too complex for that to be likely. But I remain open to considering whatever might turn up.

At the risk of being shot down in flames by the OP, I also think that some aspects of ASD are positive, and I wouldn't want to lose them, especially at my age.



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01 Sep 2015, 4:22 am

OP - I feel the same way about Asperger's as you. I wish I wasn't born with it to begin with. Why did it have to be me? Especially knowing that my mum had a healthy pregnancy with me, with no birth complications, and I wasn't born prematurely (I was actually born 5 days after my due date), and I didn't have breathing difficulties after I was born. I was a normal, healthy baby, reached all milestones at the average stages, and was a sociable, happy baby.

Then I wonder if the MMR did cause me to have this curse. My mum's got down in one of her diaries that after I had the MMR jab, I had a fever but wasn't unwell with a virus or anything. Maybe that was the cause of this s**t. So it utterly SCARES me to think that I was born an NT child, and could of had friends through school instead of being the outcast or ''the kid with special needs'', until this vaccination was inserted into me, scrambling my NT brain into this abomination. But then why do some children's brains change from the vaccination whilst others don't?

And when people think they are making me feel better about Asperger's by telling me all these Aspies that were successful and turned out rich, that does not make me feel ANY better. It would if I was a genius. But I'm not. I struggled academically through school, I was never ahead of the other children, in fact I was behind. And also I hate when people tell me that I might be a genius but not know it. Um, no, that doesn't make me feel any better, and I'm 25 years old, I'm sure I'd know by now if I was a genius or not. And don't call me ''clever'' or ''genius'' by reading my good spelling and punctuation in my posts. I do a lot of typing and I enjoy writing and spelling is something I'm good at, but lots of people are good at spelling and punctuation and enjoy writing and typing, and that don't make them geniuses. Everybody's clever in their own way, meaning everybody's got something they're good at. My strength happens to be writing. I am not a genius though. And I don't WANT to be even if I was. What I want is to be normal and have lots of friends. Well, I do consider myself normal, but I daren't express that on sites like WP because all Aspies seem to believe that we are not normal. I find that offensive.


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01 Sep 2015, 5:16 am

Maybe one day they'll find a way to cure it. I for one would like one, but I suppose it makes more sense for them to look into prevention. I hate not being able to go anywhere from everything being painfully loud. I don't even know what I'm supposed to do about that. There are many more things that I wish I didn't have. And yet people don't want it to be cured because, oh, a few scientists are suspected to have been autistic. Because they see it as a quirky personality trait for anyone who's a bit nerdy. I don't get it.



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03 Sep 2015, 7:08 am

Me ?????????


If you get good grades plus you do well in the SATs/ACTs, you'll get into a good college.......... :( .



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03 Sep 2015, 8:17 am

I personally don't want one, I am more than happy. However I can see why you would want one. Though I think it will never happen though.



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03 Sep 2015, 9:25 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
But the real "cure" is being able to adjust to your surroundings, despite your AS.


Sometimes, you can't.

There's always that tug of war between how disabled you are and the external environment, and depending on chance, it determines on how disabled you are and what the external environments are.

But anyway, I'd take a cure; being able to do more things isn't a negative to me (driving and working, for example; both are hindered by the ASD for me, and that's no matter how hard I try).

I also have little in the way of positives. A good memory for facts. I guess I've experienced a life most won't, so perhaps that's something.



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03 Sep 2015, 8:54 pm

When I first came to this forum I thought I was the only one who wanted a cure. It does kinda annoy me that some aspies take such pride having this condition while there are others suffering so much from it.

All I have to say is this, don't get angry but feel free to express your true self here because nobody is going to judge you badly..

Lastly, just so you know researchers are looking for ways to treat Autism. Last year they've discovered an old drug called Rapamune which reversed Autism in mice.. Also there was an actual study on humans regarding the compound sulforaphane which comes from broccoli sprouts, what they found was it reduced some of the negative core symptoms of Asperers and Autism like social problems and eye contact..