Like to be drunk/high/otherwise influenced for socialization

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I have always socialized best when I was high or drunk. While I haven't gotten high illicitly for years, every few weeks I still attend a weekend party or other social event, immediately knock down the proper amount of alcohol, and wait until the effects over take me.


While, to be honest, I've never particularly enjoyed the feeling, what I do like is that according to many people it makes me much better at socializing. Combined with the fact that everyone else in the area is also intoxicated and thus not prone to noticing any unusual behavior on my part, this makes for a much smoother environment for practicing those sorts of activities.



Is this unusual?

I don't think that's unusual. But when you say 'high', you could mean a lot of things.

For me, if I smoke pot and am around people afterwards, I'm extremely quiet and unresponsive. I stopped doing that in my teens.

As for drinking I enjoy doing it socially. I get more talkative, creative, bizarre, etc. I yap with absolutely no concern for what other people may think. I prefer to drink alone and write, though.

Being in a social situation sober can be either exciting or boring, it depends. Someone (1 single person) who is interesting and willing to let me go on and on about whatever I'm talking about revs me up and I get very excited.

If I'm with a group however small and they are NTs, I just get really, extremely bored and stare at wall until I can run away.

yeah I am more comfortable around people when I drink or am high.

A few drinks can make me less anxious and more likely to open up to people.

Many people lose control after drinking alcohol. They do things that they wouldn't do normally (mostly stupid things). Doesn't matter if they are Aspies or NTs.

My control is very strong, so when I drink more and more, I seem still sober and then I suddenly pass out or I start crying. So drinking with me is pointless.

I drink (a little) or get high sometimes, but I enjoy the feeling. I don't usually do it strictly with socialization in mind, but I think I do loosen up when inebriated.

If I didn't enjoy the taste of alcohol I wouldn't drink it. Same goes for smoking pot. I don't like smoking pot and the after affects the next day are just not worth it. I'm not even sure if I can get high. I used to drink when I smoked pot and I'd feel drunk but nothing more.

When I was still drinking, I would only drink alcohol if I could handle the taste. That meant no beer or wine. It did mean hard lemonade or hard alcohol that I could drink very quickly. Of course, my intent in drinking was to get drunk enough to loosen my inhibitions about socializing...not that it improved my socializing.

The last time I tried pot, I lost entire cognitive concepts. As in, I lost access to what names were. I didn't forget, it was as if the concept simply didn't exist. I could comprehend a username as part of the means of logging into a forum or whatever, but I didn't really think of them as names because names were incomprehensible. The person with me tried to explain to me what names were, but she didn't start anywhere near where the gap was. The idea of "What you've been called your entire life" was not something I could attach meaning to. I don't really find that I want to get high, and often it just annoys/disturbs me.

This probably shouldn't surprise me since my relationship to the concept of names is fairly tenuous under the best of conditions.

I used to think that drinking helps with the whole socializing thing, and, I guess it does in a way. But one day I just decided that if people don't want to hang out with me unless I've had a few then they aren't really the sort of people that I want to spend time with.

But if drinking/getting high helps you then go for it.

I find that it's a slippery slope. Socializing is easier when drunk but often it's a crutch too for being bad at socializing, and drinking to excess is something inherently unhealthy. It's a definite price to pay if the next day you have to suffer from a hangover, lack of sleep, and so forth. I also risk losing things and making bad decisions while drunk. I've gotten lost a few times, gotten into a few arguments, been irresponsible, et cetera. It's usually good up to a certain point after which I get quite mean. When I was dating my current girlfriend, I was so nervous that I'd always drink or smoke pot before our dates. It became a crutch, and she had no idea. I also sometimes get very paranoid if I smoke pot, like thinking people are out to mess with me, and so on.

I must drink socially.... It's either that or feeling the urge to run away.
Alcohol is a good way for me to cope with the discomfort of social situations.

Caffeine is helpful also... Without some strong coffee, I would never initiate any converations at work.

I prefer to have a few drinks in me if I am going to socialize. If I'm sober, I want to turn around and go home. I cannot socialize if I am high. If I am high, I get very quiet and start having very deep thoughts that no one wants to talk about, and I feel like I lose control over my fidgeting. If I do smoke weed, it's only with my husband.

I honestly can't recall the last time that I stayed completely sober during a purely social occasion.

Lol I’m the opposite. I’m the most awkward person ever when it comes to drinking. I get drunk off of half a drink, then start giggling uncontrollably and then stare into space. Good thing I don’t go to college parties because I’d be an embarrassment, unless I was with some non-judgmental and very nice people who would just laugh.

I need to go to a nerd party lol, if there’s a such thing. I’d fit right in.