Change can really throw me

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Just seen that Barclaycard will be changing how to pay for things online. You'll either need a mobile phone to do so , and if not what they call a PINsentry card reader.

Reading about it has raised my anxiety levels . When things change I worry I won't be able to cope with the new way of doing things.

You're not alone. I bought a new used car, it changed my budget, I had severe anxiety for almost a week after.

I think that the trick is to fragment the change into smaller steps.

Change puts me in meltdown. I lose control of everything and start yelling and throwing things. I call it my on-going war with inanimate objects. I no sooner get everything lined up properly than something changes and my reality is ruined.

I'll be at high risk of meltdown if it's a sudden/unexpected change, or if there are too many changes in a short period of time.

I don't mind change if it provides a better alternative. I don't like excessive complications or indecision. Indecisive people drive me crazy. If people change their minds frequently and don't commit to something, that bothers me. I know some people who won't accept any kind of change. I'm a bit older now, but not so old that I can't accept some changes. Changes that provide greater opportunities are welcome. Change related to loss are the ones that are hardest for me.

It's funny, for me changes related to loss hit me with a delay in time, but I tend to feel them for much longer.

I can completely relate to this. I bought a really nice 2011 volvo c30 r design a few weeks ago, absolutely love it but as you say, the change in my budget when I'm paid monthly too certainly causes alot of anxiety and worry almost daily. But that I have no one to blame but myself, my last car was perfectly fine, just couldnt resist at the time.

I understand what you mean. I'm high functioning but the worry, anxiety and stress from change are what are holding me back. I feel stuck in life because of this. I could find a better, well paying job and finally move out of my flat that resembles a crack den but the fear of change and how it might negatively affect my life overpowers the pros so I stick where I am.

Neuroplasticity


The psychiatrist Thursday was intimidating

So I didn't tell him I was autistic




But another doctor already wrote that I was autistic, in my medical records


The penis just didn't bother to read my medical records



"You're a smart girl"

Gender identity Disorder, 36





About eight times, he asked Mandated Reporter screening question



Every time I said "angry"


If I were to get said "autistic meltdown", then he could have overreacted



Pattern recognition




anger is not illegal. Anger is not an event

Anger is not even superior to happiness

happiness is not magic





Some lil dipshits act like, just because they are not happy, someone must have violated their stupidass "right"


Then they purposely go out of their own way to provoke me and tell me "you got mad"


"Mad" is not an emotion


But don't tell me, my reaction




Tell me what you did wrong



They act like I have a moral obligation to, never react any way, negative emotion (unless that's what they want) .

nydcat,

I still feel the losses of people and pets in my family, even those who have passed long ago. It has been almost 20 years since my favorite cat passed on (at the remarkable age of 20), but what she meant to me will live on forever.