Bothering my brothers

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so I have 3 male brothers aged 19, 24 and 15.
whenever We are in a stable position/situation like eating at the dining table, I have this strong impulse to bother my brothers
(either verbally or phisically touching them.)

of course I provoke their anger and despise of me, but I can't help doing it.

Does this happen to some of you as well?

to have these impulses?

I used to do this stuff to my brother as well. It was usually because I wanted his attention. I guess bad attention was better than no attention in my mind.

I was a lot younger, though.

Do you want a closer friendship with them but don’t know how to go about it?

exactly!

I hate to tease the OP: but how many female brothers do you have?

You should talk about this in counseling. She’ll probably have better suggestions to offer than I do.

It took a very long time for my brother and I to become close. We had some extenuating circumstances that made a friendship more challenging, but we got through it and are good friends now.

Do you guys have any of the same interests that you could bond over?

I have 3 male brothers. all males.

Anyway I bond mostly with the young one because I am his "teacher of life".
As an aspie, i give good tips.

Are any of your brothers on the spectrum?

No , only me

You have to try to resist the urge to pester them because that’ll just hurt your relationship more.

Instead, you need to look for opportunities where you can connect over things you are all interested in.

Do you guys like to play any sports, video games, or board games together? You can always chat while having fun.

I'm forever saddened by my perpetual failure of developing a succesful relationship with my brothers

I was, too. My brother and I just got close within the past couple of years.

You should talk about this in counseling. I’m sure a counselor will offer you some helpful suggestions.

Ok thanks a lot twilight princess! you are helpful as always!

Sure thing!

Thanks!

I'm guilty of this. I am fully aware of how annoying I am to the other person, but I have an impulsive urge to have to, say, poke my boyfriend in the tummy or something. I have ADHD and I think I do it to get a reaction or attention. He has yelled at me sometimes for doing it, but at the same time he likes how I love his touch and attention.

Same with my cat. She's so cute that I just cannot help myself from touching her, poking her, or squeezing her paw. Just for a reaction. Yes I know it's annoying for her but she's a resilient cat and I'm not hurting or being cruel. It's more like a playful affection I have with her, same with my boyfriend.

I was horrible to my sister as well when we were young. I was finally starting to develop a relationship with her when she got married, and now she's moved to NM. I'm going to try long distance--it's worth it. Her eldest son is on the spectrum and is a lot like I was, so I feel like she now understands where a lot of my annoying behaviors were coming from.