If you're not very social there's no need to mask ?

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Something I heard on Facebook . No friends = No need to mask?

Unless you live like a hermit.
You might have to do it in your job and in any interactions with people needed to gain something.

It stands to reason the less one observed the less one needs to mask.

If you are not too social, you have a smaller "need" to mask, than someone social.

All things being equal

But you have a job

Or interact with someone

You are a customer






Numerous times, lil dipshits that acted like they were good intentions asked if I was ok



Annoying ass holes don't have the authority or skill to "help" me

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Sometimes penises take one look at me and have the nerve to tell me "you look like you want to kill someone"





But you might not have that problem

Even a "not very social" person needs to interract with other people sometimes in today's society. If you work, you run in to people there and if you don't, you're likely on some kind of benefits and usually need to deal with some people that give them to you from time to time. Then there's also grocery shopping and even if you can do that online, you'll still end up face to face with the person who delivers your stuff (unless you have someone else, like a parent, doing everything for you.)

Then again, it's not like all of us need to use masking in such little social interractions as going grocery shopping; some can handle that with the way they naturally act, especially once it's become a routine. I know I can.

...So yeah, I suppose that less friends = less need for masking... or at the very least, less long social interraction = less need for masking.

I have the issue that I can't not mask. I actually don't know how. I have spent a lifetime of masking which is so ingrained in me that I have only had the freedom konents from not masking when I am in a countryside setting where no one is around except for my mum or very close family, and everyone is just enjoying the countryside... Masking is so ingrained into me innorder to fit in, that even I don't always know when and when I am not masking, as I do it automatically. So automatically that I ask if I am masking at all... But being honest, I know I mask because I know I cover... Or put some barrier up to protect myself. I am constantly subconciously thinking about how I am percieved. I mean... Well. Just walking in a public place where I am being watched means I am on edge... And I was thinking I am on edge to check for danger, but I am not sure if it is also being on edge to percieve how I am percieved by others? But there again, doesn't everyone do this. Are we not all on edge in this way? Are we not all in this fight or flight reponse? Only with me personally it is a flight and only fight if my flight is blocked response!
Masking... Masking... Yes, I mask most of the time. I know I do... When I watched a Youtube video where someone says about what masking is... Everything clicked into place. It explains soo much. But how can I possibly unmask? I physically don't know how. I am so used to masking and a lot of masking came from the schooling enviroment onwards... Trying to fit in....I just don't know how to unmask. I do know I unmask when I am alone or with my Mum... I do conciously mask when I am in a group. And when I visit the doctor I don't mask as I am a bundle of nurves... I clam up when the mask comes off. My mind goes into shutdown for a second or two and I can't think of anything until I change the subject from the one I intended to speak about to the doctor. I think when the mask comes down when the nurves kick in... and I am a bit of a wreck? Or is this the mask coming down? Am I imagining it? I don't know. I am thinking aloud here so I really don't know!
Anyone have an idea? Anyone know if what I say is making sense? Or am I just going crazy?