social aversion?

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I have this thing that happens to me once in a long while, always after something stressful. It's like if I get a really strong aversion to people; people trying to get close to me or talking to me triggers this almost uncontrollable fight or flight feeling. Also my ability to communicate is often diminished.

Any insight on what might be happening?

I have something like this. When I'm tired and stressed, even a very basic and friendly interaction triggers fight or flight.
The explanation I made with help from my therapist is - interacting with people costs me energy and when I'm dangerously low on energy, it's just instinct to protect myself.
So, when I get this reaction, the best thing to do is lock myself home until I feel better. In my case, it works.

Same goes for me. If I'm tired after a long day, I just tense up, get extremely cranky, and try to get anyone away from me who tries talking to me. Even family members.

Yes, phone calls at night trigger the same response.

Social aversion is my baseline. I would rather be alone, but especially after a long day I really want to be by myself. I get frustrated talking to people because I can't press a fast forward button on the boring or repetitive parts and their talking generally intrudes on my thoughts (which are usually more interesting).

When I'm anxious: at parties, grocery shopping, etc... it gets worse too. I can't focus on the conversation at all, just want to escape the interaction. It even happens with my significant other and family even though I love them, I just want to get away and not be touched for a long while.

Escaping to my room where everything is clean and no one will bother me and it's quiet works well. Sleeping or researching my special interests help calm me down.

I think i do this too but not sure because like sometimes when people wake me up or i am upset i get too the point where even a simple hello from a friendly stranger will get a nasty response. I even had times where filled with self hate in my past and i would just walk past people and cuss at them. I also do this in text and phone calls purposefully pushing people away when it feels like we might be getting to be friends. Is this what you guys are talking about or is what your talking about different.

I like people, or some people, but I need a lot of me time. I am not really a people person, and a lot of things had to be learned. I put off answering phone calls/texts because I perceive this as cutting into my alone time. Other people who have more of a need for socialization than me, get the wrong message.

Misanthropy. I struggle with it myself.

Yes!

I can do it very briefly, like maybe two minutes. If the person keeps talking longer than that, anything can happen. Sometimes, I'm able to plaster a smile on my face, glaze my eyes over and endure. Sometimes, if it's someone I don't like but am forced to interact with, I can say, 'okay,' turn and walk away. Or, I can say, 'go away.' Or worse, I can say stfu or gtfoh. Which gets me into a lot of trouble. I'm in trouble right now.