Is self-esteem beneficial for aspies?

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It may be great to have goof self esteem but I can't be bothered with it.

I may be dumb, but I'm not a dweeb. I'm just a sucker with no self-esteem.

Yes it is, are you a troll or something?

I'm not keen on the term "self-esteem." It implies you need to bolster somebody's confidence before doing something. Real confidence comes from achievement and successful realization of a goal. I distrust these "self-esteem" boosting exercises, because I only feel confident after I have actually completed something, or I am actually moving forward. All of the compliments in the world mean nothing to me if I am staying in the same place, or worse, actually regressing.

It depends.

Self esteem as in 'I am great' - no. Earn that first.

Self esteem as in 'I am a human being and worthy of life' - shouldn't have to be earned.

Self esteem ought to not be reliant on adherence to what society values either. Society doesn't put a lot of stock (read, cash value) on some aspie achievements which are still achievements. Being published internationally is an achievement but if you do it in poetry, you don't get money.

I once had a third-place trophy for bowling (and I didn't even deserve that, since my teammate bowled twice as good as I did).

I just wanted to throw the damn thing away.

There is some region of healthy self-esteem that enables one to see both pleasant and unpleasant truths about themself.
It's beneficial for everyone.

When I consider my own "self-esteem", I look back on my degrees, licenses, and other things I've earned. I also look at my wife and our children, and how they have grown and developed. What others would consider "status symbols" I consider the "basic necessities of life" -- home, transportation, clothing, et cetera.

Every day, I encounter people who were praised and coddled since birth by their parents and teachers, and who become anxious when they find they have to compete for jobs, raises and promotions. Some actually believed that they should receive base pay for just showing up, and "incentive pay" for doing their work. Those people don't remain employed for very long.

The definition of self esteem is "confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect." It is very beneficial for Aspies. Many Aspies feel deficient in this trait and they tend to describe their lives as miserable.

I think Jimmy latched onto a very good definition of self-esteem.

There were at least 20 teams in bowling at that time.

Maybe most precious lil "people" have way too much self esteem



Confidence not proportional to competence


They act like they are the greatest thing since sliced bread

They act like every thought and emotion that goes through their head is the latest greatest scientific invention


Then when you say the slightest thing they grunt "huh" and "what" like it is the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me"


They act judgmental and manipulative



Their high self esteem is good for them


Doesn't mean they are as valuable as they act like they are



f**k those ass holes