Telling people I meet about my Asperger

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Well, I usually never tell people I meet for the first time, about my asperger. It usually starts with a very normal, friendly introduction. If they ask me questions, I try to avoid mentioning anything that has to do with any disability or any type of autism.
In the past, I wasn't aware of the physical symptoms and clumsiness I had, which gave people a good hint I have some problem, even if they didn't know it was called asperger. Now, walking and talking normally, people never see any signs or hints of it anymore. I admit I could have worked on my walking and speech a lot earlier, but not everyone gets the assistance they need at the right time.
So, when I first meet someone, even back when I still had the walking / talking problems, they didn't ALWAYS notice a problem that I possibly have. Some of them have also misinterpreted it as me just being kinda nervous or tired, and so on.
I'll admit that, once people realize I have it, which they don't always do, they mostly tend to change their behavior towards me and treat me as someone different - someone with a problem, or a disability. And that can be unfair and disappointing sometimes.
Other than that, I generally don't tell new people I meet about my asperger, and if they ask - I just tell them it's not asperger, or just me being kinda nervous, or my "feet hurts", etc. Something ordinary.
If it's getting deep, and the relationship is getting strong and longer - i might reveal something to them about the asperger, but I won't explicitly say I have it or that it's a major issue, to the extent I can't handle a normal conversation properly.
I would like other people here, if you'd like to share it, whether you tell other people that you meet, especially people you meet for the first time - do you tell them about your asperger? Or you just don't, or maybe you say you have a certain problem but you don't clearly say it is asperger's.
I guess in generally, it can be better off not to tell it to other people, but if it's close friends / family, I think it would be okay to tell it, if they are people who will still treat you equally after they learn about it.
Thank you

I am in a situation of waiting for an assessment. I think everyone knows I am different! Haha! Well, many people pick it up and some close to me say "Why don't you do what I do?" or "Why did you do that?" My youngest brother often tries to tell me how to live. He is still a youngster and so is still learning life himself.
Anyway... It is funny. When I told my youngest brother about the assessment he said "I could have told you you have autism". Puzzled, I asked him why. He said "At Bobs, (It was a large gathering of Christians in Bobs converted barn... An event I go to as I drive and my Mum does not, and she wants to go (Feels obliged to go)) a man approached me who said "I am a health professional" and he then gave out a list of autism traits he saw in me. There was a man who pulled me and my brother to the side to talk to us but I was being called to help so I left him talking to my brother.
Ad my brother said something like "I always knew rhere was something wrong with you!" (He said in his humour... I can't hit him... He runs too fast! ).

But I have only told a few people, mainly as I do not know what to say, as if I didn't tell them and they found out they would be offended. So only a few close people, and everyone on this site!