Flirting and Banter

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I was watching a new film about rap battles called "VS" on netflix with my friend. There was a scene near the start where the protag tries to get the attention of a girl working in the arcade. They exchange lines like mini raps with cheeky insults and I really thought he was trying to flirt with her. Especially because when he first approaches her he asks her to exchange his £10 note for 1p coins. That made me think it was his way of getting to spend more time talking to her. But my friend said that he thought the two were only bantering, and it turns out later in the film that the girl is homosexual. Clearly he was right, but I don't know how you could tell that from the beggining. Any ideas on being able to tell the difference from banter and flirting?

I have observed neurotypical people my entire life, its a hobby of mine, because i like to understand psychology and the human mind, and from what i have SEEN, banter can quickly turn into flirting. Maybe in the middle of the girl and dudes conversation, he realized that she wasnt going to be interested, so he didnt attempt to flirt. just some stuff to keep in mind, sorry that i cant help more.

Thanks jngyslate!
That actually makes a lot of sense. People tend to start with banter then if there is some kind of "chemistry" it escalates into flirting. In retrsospect I think I've missed quite a few opportunities from just assuming banter was the intention - i'll have to be more observent!

This is really common in the NT world where a boy might initiate talk to a girl just for the sake of chit/chat (although rarely the other way around). There are multiple reasons why banter might be initiated ranging from boredom to having a friendly/personality disposition. Extroverted males (who aren't socially selective) tend to talk to everyone, it's just in their nature.

Although let's be realistic that if the male is single and the girl indicates/advertises she is single (in some way) then there is a window/cue for the boy to jump in and offer to create a situation to see her again.