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So I've decided that I need to move out of my parents' house. It's not a healthy environment for me psychologically because my mom criticizes everything I do. However, I only work part time right now and as such can't afford to move out in the long term. I have savings, but it would run out pretty quickly if I had to pay rent.

My question for those of you who have moved out of your parents' house is how were you able to do it? I'm honestly not sure if I could work full time without burning out. I'm also worried about having an in-person job, as the only jobs I've had have been telecommute. I'm worried that the stress of trying to fit in with coworkers would be too much for me.

I just feel stuck right now. Because of difficulties associated with my autism, I don't know if I could have a "normal" job. Sure, maybe I could for a while, but I don't want my job to cost me my sanity, as dramatic as they may sound.

I currently live in a city where rent is pretty high, which further complicates the problem. What are my options? I know of some autistic people who work part time but still have their own place. How is that done?

Thanks in advance for any responses.

Since you are living at home, you have the ability to test the waters. You are currently working part time. If you can pick up a full time job, then do it. You may think that the stress from a full time job will be too much for you, but in reality, YOU DO NOT KNOW THIS. So if you try for a full time job and take it one day at a time, you may uncover a career. This is the path for financial independence.

If you can financially support yourself, there are several options you might pursue for moving out of your parents house. Generally the first step is moving into an apartment. But the cost might be prohibitive. Therefore some people make the transition by splitting the cost with others. They jointly sign a lease for the rental and split the rooms among themselves. This can be problematic is the person/persons that you are sharing the apartment with are untrustworthy. They might not cover their share of the rent or they may simple up and leave; leaving you with the full financial liability. But many people do the sharing approach when they first start off.

What country do you live in? In the U.S you can apply for disability benefits, and an autism diagnosis sometimes (not always) expedites the process.

Unearned income like stock markets

I live in a group home. That's how.

At various times I have shared houses, worked off my rent at gardening or handyman work, rented a whole house and then sublet rooms to live almost free, lived in tiny spaces, lived in a car, and lived at work. Eventually, I bought a house for $15k in an area with a declining population due to farm amalgamations. Maybe you can find a place for a "tiny house" and get one, or just a travel trailer to start. If you can start an internet-based business, it really opens up your living options. My friend Steve relies on many "nickel generators" such as instructions he has written that sell a few a month, and free-lance writing jobs. There are also various caretaker jobs, from house sitting to industrial security, which mostly involve living on a site. Some people buy and sell used things, from garage sale items that might need a touch of cleaning or repair, to whole cars, etc. The biggest skill is knowing where things are cheap to buy, and where they sell at higher prices. Usually, this involves having more time and space available.
You can also save vast sums by using a bicycle for all your basic transportation. Some places are not suitable, but some are, and you can only tell by riding once you are proficient. if you find your home, work, and shops by bike, they will remain within comfortable range.
The art of independent living has as much to do with economizing as earning.