I'm Having Trouble Understanding My Emotions

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lucgn01
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04 Sep 2019, 9:01 pm

I'm not quite sure if this fits in this forum, but I don't think that it would fit in "The Haven". Anyway, recently, I've been having trouble processing my thoughts and trying to understand why I feel a certain way. For instance, if I feel guilty about something or if I feel bad about myself, I'll get angry because I'm letting myself feel that way. I'm having trouble understanding why someone would hate themselves while doing the exact same thing. It's all very confusing and it's not helping my anxiety in the slightest. Does anyone have any advice?



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05 Sep 2019, 7:00 am

In your case it is probably best to find a person with whom you can talk about the day and stuff. Someone who can be your empathetic ear. Sounds good or bad?

There are people like that. I personally find their listening questioning mode insufferable but many people like it.



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05 Sep 2019, 8:36 am

Aspergers has been described as a neurological variant where more complex, sensitive, or faster neurological processing results in overwhelming demands.

If one were to consider understanding what was said on the radio with the volume turned up too loud, one might get a picture of how difficult it is to differentiate word meaning. Being able to discriminate between the avalanche of information might require a withdrawal so that as the sensations subside, some perspective can be gained.

It might be possible to use the Asperger trait of greater (but narrower) focus to consider one element of what is coming through to see if that helps.

Sometimes people have success with stimming (something more socially acceptable such as rubbing ones fingers together). For some reason this intentional stimulation can provide a tactile baseline that can occasionally help in dealing with an avalanche of sensation.

Aspergers can also provide an excessive amount of after event processing such that insights may also be gained. However, the down side of this characteristic is beating oneself up over mistakes.

The best way to deal with guilt is to extract from it everything that is useful and when nothing is left, to let it go.

1. Was I at fault?
2. Do I need to apologize or fix anything?
3. What can I learn to prevent future occurrence?
4. Move on.