Sense of belonging

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When you learned that you were autistic, did you have this sudden sense of belonging? Like you finally fit somewhere in the world. You were free in a sense.

I felt justified in always feeling I was standing alone and not sharing the same experience as those around me.

I want to belong, but autistic people are not that different from the flock.

I'd like somewhere we could just let it all out and not be judged, but here is not it, virtue signal, waves.

I thought I did for a little while, when everything I read about Asperger's syndrome/HFA seemed to be describing me, but once I joined a social skills group consisting mostly of people on the autism spectrum, it wasn't long before I realized I don't even fit in with others on the spectrum.

I feel a sense of belonging with others who are also incapable of feeling a sense of belonging

Let's just say I don't resonate well with the majority, nor most of them ever relate let alone understood and belonged in a deeper sense.

Autistic groups do understood, relate and belong to some extent, but not entirely resonate with.
Observations of the world are mainly similar, familiar.
Yet the lack of emphasis on comorbidity is one thing, the difference towards reaction to circumstances is another.

The 'reaction', the human reaction, is what makes the majority of autistics are 'no different' to others though.
It's just that many of those others don't experienced it first hand, let alone know what they'd react. They don't know they'd react similarly if they're on the same experiences and circumstances.

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No, they will still judge you harshly.

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Feels sense of belonging here , a sort of commonality .
Besides anatomically ..these symptoms , the structural parts of the brain.
That give us our preceptions .albeit we are all different people .
The commonality of affectations , is enough for me to feel less judged by the peeps on this wrongnplanet . Whereas , has not found a more likely place other than this one. A hug to one and all .

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dragonsanddemons wrote:

I still feel kind of "other" even here, though it certainly is the closest I've come to fitting in.

I think part of the problem is that most of the people in the social skills group are younger and/or higher functioning than I am. They're all finishing up high school or attending college and looking for or already have jobs while I'm on SSI and looking into assisted living.

We're all so unique, so different from each other as well as NT's, that we'll never "fit in," even with each other, in the same way that most NT's can fit in with other NT's of the same cultural background, economic class, educational level, etc.

But we can "fit in" in the sense of mutual acceptance, on the basis of recognizing that we are all different and not expecting conformity to any narrow norm.

Yep, WP is the one place where I feel like I can truly be myself and not be judged too harshly for it