Do you notice when you don't get along with others?

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Some people say people with Aspergers we would not notice that we cannot get along with others. Do you agree or disagree?
I also have another question relating to this question, that's my opinion: I think it's possible for aspies or autistic to notice if there experiences in life have showed them to be self aware. Or if you/they become aware over time.
People dislike me speaking about the possibility of me maybe having AS or Autism because they believe i "notice"
So do you agree with not being aware of not getting along with others? Or do you not agree and believe you can notice?
Please reply in honesty. Thank you for reading or taking the poll..

What do you mean by "cannot/don't get along with"?

Sometimes I am very aware of not getting along with others especially if it is blatant like if we are arguing or something or if they are crossing my boundaries without permission. But there are other times if it is more subtle that I have no idea and I have to be told. And there are other times when people think that they are getting along with me but they are actually not because they are getting on my last nerve.

It's not true that Aspies are incapable of getting along with others. We have bad social skills, not a curse that makes us enemies with everyone.
To answer the question, I do notice when I don't get along with someone.

If I do not notice, how am I supposed to know that I do not notice?

I can't answer as I can't speak for other people. I think that I am fully aware of who and who I don't get along with but like the poster above states, how can I know if I don't notice. I am still capable of been very naive.

I am not sure what does the not getting along mean exactly but at times I realize people are not listening to me. For example sometimes when I say something my mom doesn't answer at all so I ask her if she got what I mean and she doesn't answer anything as if she didn't hear me. Then I ask if she heard me and she says she did. But when I tell her to repeat what I said she cannot do it. That's frustrating. Even I know that when someone tells something to you should say stuff like "Aha.", "I see.", "Really?" even if you are not really listening so the one speaking doesn't feel ignored. Not doing so is just rude. "Do this so I can go on or say you are bored so I stop. Just don't ignore me..."

yeah I notice, usually when people are being bitchy towards you, they will whisper to each other and look at you, the problem is though that if you are not careful you become paranoid and think that people are not liking you when they are.

Not getting along??? When would one know, if it was just bad chemistry? Could happen to anyone.

I know but I have known some autistic people that just keep talking to someone and acting like a friend when they clearly don't want to be. It's different with every person.

I just think, that it is difficult to separate things like that.
Even when I, just like Skibum, sometimes have no clue and have to be told, I know of others, presumably NT´s of less suspicious temperament, who experience the same now and then.
When is it because of asperger characteristics, and when is it because we´re living individuals with differences?

Let's see:

People yelling at you
Telling you to go away or mind your business
Telling you to be quiet or shut up
Getting irritated with your or annoyed and treating you badly
Always pissing someone off and not knowing what will tick them off

Yeah I can tell.

Oh, In that case, I´ll know. Been there lots of times without understanding why, - but it can show far more subtle, and I´ll usually get the feeling a long time after.

I can completely miss that I'm not getting along with people or that I'm pissing them off.

Thought I was getting along fine with my adult stepdaughter - then she sent me a five page letter outling just how much I had been pissing her off and that she didn't want me in her life anymore. Didn't see it coming at all.

If I completely miss it, how would I ever know that I missed it? Like not noticing the neutrinos streaming through my body.

I assume you mean at a later time the Aspie figures it out.

Ever since I self-diagnosed I am more aware of it and I am looking for it. At times I wonder if I was better before I knew. Its like I am just f***ing tired of trying to figure it out.