Intuition

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I often am very confused by my ASD because, while I often miss the obvious, I tend to pick up some things that others did not really well. So sometimes I can't even tell why I'm feeling something or what's going on but others I notice a problem way before anyone else does? This is incredibly stressful because, when you add the fact I have an anxiety disorder and second guess everything, me having a sometimes very spot on intuition is bad because it makes things up and tells me those are real because it is my intuition. I know it's not but part of me still worries...

I'll give an example so you can tell what I'm getting at. One of my family members used to do loads of gambling at a time when we were really tight on money, to the point my mum would miss meals to feed me and my sister. I would find the scratchcards hidden behind things and asked about them. I was told they actually belonged to a friend and that the family member took them for some reason. My gut could tell this was off but because of how they said it, I felt guilty for second guessing them. Many things similar to this happened to me as I grew up and each time I was made to feel guilty to stop me talking and I second guessed myself, many of them way more serious than this. Part of me could even tell something was off around the time a member of the family had an affair after meeting with said person. The thing is, I can never tell what might be happening I just suddenly get a deep discomfort and nausea as every fibre of my being screams something is wrong yet doesn't know what it is. The funny thing is I misunderstand why.

TLDR: I am very good at noticing when something is off but am hopeless at understanding why this could be correctly.

Does anyone else experience this very good ability at sensing things are off but struggle to tell what exactly is wrong?

People lie for various reasons, and there are subtle cues in their presentation, as well as the possibility of contradicting physical evidence. These things only tell us that something is being concealed, with a broad range of possibilities. Usually, it isn't any of our business, unless we wish to snitch.
There is benign concealment in many cases. Things can't be changed in the immediate future, so lies are told to limit the damage and distress. Children have enough to do just growing up without worrying about adult concerns. In a social group, a diplomatic member will steer the conversation away from topics on which agreement won't be reached, instead of toward them. As for why agreement won't be reached in many cases, I have a great deal more to say, out of scope for this forum.