What seperates good weird from bad weird?

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College students are confusing. Right so I know that there is good weird and bad weird but I have no idea how you are supposed to know where you fit on them or what makes you one or the other. I feel like I should be bad weird. I have an issue with volume control and even when I think I'm being quiet I am apparently quite loud and my friends and I talk about weird things. For example today I was telling them about a murder and kidnapping cases I'd heard on the radio. There was only four of us so I was kinda quiet (or what I thought quiet was) but apparently not enough because my tutor heard when she came in so I had to explain to my whole tutor. I often get asked how I know all this stuff with people looking disturbed. I also blurt out inappropriate things and don't realise till I see people's reactions. To top it off I found out just last week you are supposed to smile at people when you make eye contact with them in passing. Until that point I was just staring into their souls or would turn and not look at them/unintentionally ignore them which made at least one person sigh. In my presentation for German everyone laughed at me as I stumbled my way through a paragraph with a few graphic terms. By all accounts I should be bad weird and have people stay away from me no?

But they don't and much to my horror (horror as I m confused and so cannot trust it, not because I am not appreciative, I would be if it felt right) I seem to be well liked despite these and people seem to show me affection. If accidentally blurting out something looks a bit BDSM or talking in great detail about true crime a little too loudly by accident is not enough to be bad weird what makes someone bad weird? This may be a hard question but I wanted to know if anyone had literally ANY insight on what makes someone fall into either category because I am confused. I put this here because we people on the spectrum are often branded with some sort of weird and perhaps any feedback can help others out??

I can relate to your confusion, I don't know if something I do or say is good/bad weird until I observe other response and I've given up on finding a logical pattern. I avoid obvious bad weird things like saying creepy stuff

I try my best to do the same/hide what I say that is creepy but sadly oftentimes don't realise till I've seen the reaction. That's when I apologise loads. It feels like the scales could shift at literally any time but I doubt that is the case. It's confusing.