Feeling very suicidal

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My wife told me 10 days ago that she wants to separate and eventually divorce me. Therefore my Christmas was ruined. We only got a mortgage on our flat this may so we are still living together until the legal stuff starts. We have been together for 7 years and married over 2 and a half. I am feeling extremely suicidal from this, I am constantly crying and howling all night, I can't sleep or eat. I love her so much, she is my best friend and she is all that I have....We do everything together and I live for her...She is my whole world but she said she fell out of love with me years ago and she was too afraid of leave me because of my mood swings. I've suggested therapy and other solutions that could fix the marriage but she keeps saying no and she just don't love me any more. I am afraid I am either going to kill or harm myself or die of a broken heart. I need someone to talk to please.

I am stating the obvious here and trying to do so in an understanding way as I have been there, felt similarly: You are having very big feelings. Very big. For as unbearable as this feels, it is temporary and can stop by a means other than suicide. Please call a hotline or go to an emergency room so you have the opportunity to see that these feelings can and will pass. You need help to take the first small steps in navigating this big change (and big feelings), and continued support. Hugs.

I can only offer sympathy - I was in a very similar situation not long ago. Hopefully she will agree to counselling or you will at least be able to stay friends. If she doesn't want to try going to therapy with you, go anyway to get some support. I wish you the best and hope things get better.