do people stare at you

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Right so first I thought I was being paranoid but when other people notice something then is it not fair to assume that what you are noticing is just the facts of the situation and the facts are that people keep on staring at me.

This is including children and it is freaking me out. I turned around on the bus yesterday to see two kids staring at me with no shame because they were so young. I pointed it out to my friends and they noticed and every time I looked back the kids were still at it for like maybe five to ten minutes. They soon got distracted by something outside. This was just after looking up to see two guys in my college staring at me and my friends (luckily they were being weird with our whole group so it wasn't just at me). Today I was walking with my friend and this guy stopped in his tracks and stared at me and then walked away.

I don't ever plan to reveal what I look like but let's just say I don't see any reason why this would happen except maybe in the morning. I have a make up style where I tend to blend out my eyeliner and have red/purple eyeshadow under my eyes but I didn't hear about primer till recently so by the afternoon no eyeshadow was visible so it can't be that because I know when I have that I look as my friend would say "scary" but again, in most of these incidences my face did not look like that because rain + wind and I know this because it was basically gone as soon as I was in college haha. I am not too fat nor thin, just in the middle and I'm kinda tall for a girl at 5 foot 10 but not really huge or anything. I wear kinda unusual clothes but nothing too out the box. Maybe the only thing that would make someone raise an eyebrow would be my chains but honestly I am just a normal teen in that. Basically I don't think I looked freakish or anything.

I am a bit more paranoid at the moment but other people notice it too and part of me is wondering if it's like they can sense something is off. Although... I have had my anxiety fixate on the idea that people can sense my autism and it does sound quite crazy when I type it but I can't explain it. Do you deal with people giving you weird looks and do you know why?

Once, I didn't notice that my pants were "too short" and got some stares until I fixed the problem.

Yes because of my stimming (which is sometimes also vocal) and my awkwardness due to my coordination disorder.

I get paranoid too. I feel like I'm being scrutinized each time I go out in public and it just gets to me. It's hard to ignore the stares because I hate being noticed by strangers.

I don't tend to make eye contact with strangers, but I can feel when I am being stared at. I've been told it's my imagination, but I don't think it is. I have an explanation as to why I know it's real, but it's too complicated to explain in words.

I feel people are watching my every move, like packing my shopping into bags or reading a bus timetable. It's what you call the "spotlight effect".

There can be lots of reasons for this. Nice girls draw attention anyway. Beside of this others may like or dislike you, can't read you emotionally and are curious because of this, may find you hot or totally strange or there isn't just anybody else more interesting around. Once you have Aspergers it's sometimes hard to hide this. Don't give to much on this.

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I get lots of stares in public, but that's largely because I have a service dog who goes with me. I get lots of comments on him, too. It's amazing how many adults act like they've never seen a dog before

Yes. I get people staring at me. It is natural I guess.

People like animals. If I had a dog I'd rather everyone pay attention to the dog than to me.

I don't look obvious Aspie, I look like a normal 29-year-old. I live in a city and there are literally all sorts of race, cultural backgrounds, shapes, sizes, and disabled people, so it's not that easy to stand out by a tiny quirk in your body language (if that is the lame reason I get stared at), compared to thousands of diverse people. Also I get stared at by other women more, which is not as flattering as being stared at by guys.

What is the "perfect" way to be where people won't stare at you?

I often ask myself what I am doing differently then other people are and why I sometimes seem to stand out.

my thing is, i seem to lack that psychic radar thingie that seems to tell everybody else and their brother, when somebody is staring at them. so i only notice if i catch the bastards in the act. luckily it doesn't happen too often and when it does i can conveniently ascribe it to poor breeding.

I used to stare at people and many other things, trying to understand them. Then mother said to not stare at people, and I stopped learning. I think my mirror neurons need a much longer exposure to work than usual, so learning from others is very rare.

I don't know, I really hope not. I try to draw as little attention to myself when I'm out in public and I don't like being noticed.