Anyone had obstacles in the way of achieving something ?

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I seem to feel like I am the only one who has had unfortunate circumstances and obstacles to overcome in trying to achieve something. Before I wanted to go on to uni, my application was too late and so I had to leave it that year and apply for the next year and managed to get in that year but was only there at uni for four months and left in January the following year due to the stress of work at uni and never went back, I do feel envious of those who have been to uni and graduated and seems to make me feel like a underachiever and that they have their dream jobs and careers already at 22 or 23 and that they had no obstacles in the way of their goals. It has taken me probably 8 years to try and write a book and I haven't done it yet frustratingly due to changing ideas.

I went to collage (Ok, college) and though I stuck the 2 years out, I didn't do too well due to the stress etc. The week or two before my exams my masking fell off and I found myself with the whole class set against me,mso when I did the exams I did not care what results I had. All I wanted to do was get collage over with and leave asap.

Writing a book. I too want to write a book. Is strange as I write but then get so far and that is it, and then I lose where I wtote the thing etc...
I should be good at it as my Mums an author. Maybe I need to get more organized...

The only obstacles I've faced on my path to success were those people who said that it couldn't be done.

I sure showed them!

If one has a goal, and determination, I am sure that for most of us we can achieve, even if we need to approach the task from a different angle.

Actually you have made me think of something that I need to explore...

I was really good at school and graduated college with honors. Despite that it took me a year to find a job. It was for insurance sales. I hated it the idea of cold-calling people and quit within a month. I then took a job similar to what I'm doing now, but for low-income housing. It made me so nervous because of the limited capacity we had and the fact that I was the one who had to hear everyone's sad stories. I cried all the time and hated it there. The icing on the cake was when a lawsuit was filed against the company because they weren't fixing holes in people's floors and a woman fell and hurt herself. They gathered everyone to watch the news report and were laughing. That was the last straw. I felt like there must be something wrong with me for not being able to work in sales or deal with people in need when there wasn't anything I could really do to help them. I went from freelance writing job but didn't write often. I was desperate for money and applied to retail and anything that was available. I was told that I was too literal at interviews and was turned away during a survey where I wrote on top of the survey "sometimes no = sometimes yes". I was always so nervous at interviews and visibly shook and had trouble speaking. I felt like a failure. It didn't help that there weren't many jobs because of the recession. After many years of depression and crazy anxiety, I was finally medicated and obtained my first real job in eight years. It was in retail and didn't pay much, but it helped me learn how to talk to people... at least in that environment. I learned that because I am petite and I giggle nervously and bounce and flap when I'm excited, older customers thought I was adorable . I was able to pass off my mental and developmental disorders as being cutesy quirks. The only time I couldn't was whenever a customer made me uncomfortable or when it was too busy in the store. I would have to go to the back and sob and rock myself. I would claw myself and tap constantly when I was overwhelmed. I would go home and just be numb and zone out. In the current workplace, I am at a desk all the time and although I don't have to talk to anyone, it is isolating and BORING because I CRAVE being challenged. All I do are time and expense reports, calendaring, and booking travel. I'm grateful to have a job but feel like the token autistic person. I just feel like there should be more to life than this.

There is something that I realized now that I am older. I used to think that somehow those in control of things from governments to local councils all knew what they were doing and had plans. Sure they ake plans... But I found out that they were just ordinary people trying to do their best in the circumstances they were in and they were often needing to make things up as they go along hoping that their ideas will work...
So before we criticize our leaders, would we know what we are doing?
But anyway. What I am saying here is that in life, it really is what we make it. I mean... Even though we may go through trials to get there and maybe in a desperate position, we still can make choices and decisions, which can influence the enviroment in which we live in. We may not know which direction to take and may not know the outcome... But isn't it better to try a direction anyway just to see how things pan out? As long as we avoid directions which we know hit dead ends or cause us trouble, and head for the other directions, we should have a chance of success.
Success comes through trial. When I started scratchbuilding little waggons, I tried various designs before I found out which ones worked and which did not. I now have far more success through the past trials then if I would have never tried out ideas and given them a go.
So if we don't try how will we know if the plan or idea works?

They are just thoughts... Theoretical thoughts...

My obstacles have usually been imposed by well-meaning people who were concerned about my ability to handle certain aspects of things I really wanted to do in life. That has never seemed to change despite the fact that I am a much different person now than I was earlier in my life.

Sure, I've had a lot of things get in the way of achievement. Sometimes you can say it's just a part of the experience.

Look up Eldridge R. Johnson's life story if you want an idea of having it tough and then making good. Johnson was a great business man & inventor who founded the Victor Talking Machine Company to sell some of the first good record players in the entire world. He was told he was too dumb to go to college (possibly AS/ADD?) but anyway he was good at making things, and founded a company employing thousands of people. I have some of his original Victor phonographs from the Edwardian Era and they are still serviceable to this day--every time I listen to music I think about him & his work.

Everybody, even people like Thomas Alva Edison, have obstacles placed before them.

Life is all about overcoming whatever obstacles are placed before you.

I've overcome some----haven't overcome others.

Frank Spencer.

Are you KIDDING?!? Helen Keller was deaf and blind. Charles Proteus Steinmetz was a hunchback, who decided to not be a father, but he made electric motors work, after barely getting into the US. Gandhi and Mandela were both jailbirds. Newton had to invent calculus to clarify his thoughts. Eric Clapton was an English art student who wanted to get people to listen to an obscure American music, so he had to learn guitar. Chuck Yeager had a hard time getting out of the maintenance hangar, but managed to catch up with the graduate engineers and show what he could do. Three years ago, I'd gotten ready for a big project, and then a new development next door made it more important to save my house foundations.

How about trying to find an example of someone who had zero setbacks?

Edison himself had quite a few things to say about obstacles. "Opportunity is ignored by most people because it comes dressed in overalls and looks like hard work."

He was likely high-funcitoing autistic himself. His first marriage didn't last, and he was a very eccentric man in his personal life. He slept in his laboratory sometimes, had a profound appetite for pie (samefooding?) and was downright testy about his music. (Had he not hated most jazz records, Edison Records would still be one of the biggest names in American music today.)

Edison also was considered "addled" by his teacher (for asking too many questions) and in the days before Adderall and Ritalin had to go home and learn his school from his mother. I don't think his mom did such a bad job, really. Most mothers would like their boys to live a long life and design things.

Why, even Nellie Bly, pioneer journalist who got herself into quite a few scrapes on behalf of people and papers, had enough trouble being a lady reporter in the 1800s and trying to get taken seriously. Not only did she strike out for the cause of the mentally defective (which may have included many of our own number) but she also invented the 55-gallon oil drum and was able to live confidently and boldly even after she named herself after a Stephen Foster song.

I was just going to say that. I proved my parents wrong, many times.

Envy to no end anyone with autism (though i feel doubtful of their autism when i hear it ...which is wrong of me i know) who actually got through college or university.

Couldnt handle classrooms n too many ppl like that in a class or lecture setting or anywhere really


the different noises n feel lost of ability to focus n it is rrrrrreally really bad..
Stimming.. Try to refrain n it increases the problem
.panic attacks..

Much more
Thought i got over that with anxiety med but then I went to some classes n it came back

That will never go away unless they fix my brain with TMS that specifically targets the areas that happens as they did with John elder robison temporarily for social ability.

I did therapy..EFT affirmations.. exercising prior to release tension..deep breathing... cbt techniques..regularly
etc.. Nothing has fixed that. Nothing not meds.. Not age.. Nothing.

Mount Everest is littered with dead bodies, but there are guides willing to take a chance on anyone with the money and desire. One day, a really bad storm hit, and some of the climbers were abandoned when they fell behind on the descent. That's when one chair jockey first realized that he had to rely on himself and see what he could do. You couldn't have gotten 1000:1 odds on him at Base Camp, but he made it.

Are talking about obstacles created by our own mistakes and/or other people or do obstacles that are no one's fault (under the current knowledge at least) also count?

My biggest obstacle has always been and probably always will be the physical disability I was born with. Because of that, there are many things I can't do for a living and lots of hobbies I can't seriously get in to. My body's just too weak for that and always will be.

Of course, there have been other kind of obstacles too. Had my parents had more faith in me, I would've probably at least tried to get to a more respected school than I did when I had to choose a place for secondary education. But they didn't, so I chose the option they were rooting for in order to not get them mad... though to be honest, I shouldn't complain about them since they had more faith in me than the doctors did, who wanted me to go to a special school.

Another thing... well, I only work part time despite the fact that I'd be able to work full time. Why don't I? I simply haven't been able to get a fulltime job. Why not? Well, at first it was probably due to bad social skills, and now that they're better, my lack of experience in my early years makes me look bad. The obstacle? I learned social skills too slowly...